I Love My Husband, But I Don't Want To Have Sex With Him... What's Wrong With Me?

Parenthood can be magical, but let’s face it: it's not great for your sex life. When you’re sleep-deprived, breastfeeding, and feeling self-conscious about your postpartum body, the idea of intimacy with your partner might feel impossible—maybe even repellent.</p><br />This week’s listener question comes from a mom of two struggling with the “ick” when her husband initiates physical touch. She loves him deeply but feels overwhelmed and unsure how to reconnect. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. In this episode, I break down why this happens (hint: it’s not just hormones) and share practical steps to navigate this tricky season.</p><br />We’ll cover:</p><ul><li>The science behind postpartum hormones and their impact on desire.</li><li>Why the “ick” is more about exhaustion and emotional overwhelm than love.</li><li>How to shift from avoidance to connection, even when sex feels off the table.</li></ul><br /></p>This isn’t about quick fixes or guilt-tripping—it’s about creating a partnership where both of you feel seen, valued, and wanted.</p><br />Take a deep breath, mama. There’s hope, and it starts with small, intentional steps.</p><br /><strong>Want the FREE GUIDE to rekindling desire? </strong><a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc1Stc89vLNPRUBxndgTVYpGn6S2Co1sf4t3AYN0DV_d4Bi0g/viewform?usp=sf_link" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Click here</strong></a></p><br /><strong>BIG (BUT EASY) ASK: Would you please take three minutes to fill out the super-short, super-easy </strong><a href="https://forms.gle/yLg3dTimtoDFd8jy7" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sounds Like Therapy Listener Survey</strong></a>? Not only do you get a chance to submit your own question, which may be answered on a future episode of Sounds Like Therapy, but if you fill out the survey between now and Thanksgiving 2024, you'll be entered for a chance to win a $50 GIFT CARD as a token of my thanks for your time.</p><br /><em>Disclaimer: while this podcast sounds like therapy, it is not actually therapy nor is it a substitute for therapy, and while I am a therapist, I am not YOUR therapist. Please be entertained and encouraged, and seek appropriate mental health support from a licensed therapist in your community, if necessary. </em></p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:18:24

Do THIS if You Want to Keep Politics from Ruining Your Thanksgiving Dinner

In case you missed it… here in America we just had a presidential election which, because we’re so divided in this country, means that just about half of the country is celebrating while the other half is devastated.</p><br />And also now? We are just weeks away from the start of the holiday season, where we’re supposed to sit down with the political foes we call family and pass the peas without throwing punches! Is it any wonder that so many of us are full of dread? </p><br />If you’re anxious about politics ruining your Thanksgiving dinner, I think you’ll SO relate to the listener we hear from today, who shared her own worries about seeing her sister at Thanksgiving, after an intense political disagreement last month. </p><br />And even if you don’t, personally, have political discord in your family, stay with me - the insights I share about why humans fight, and the plan that I lay out to keep the peace at Thanksgiving, will be a guide that you can apply anywhere that humans congregate - from the boardroom to the PTA meeting, and everywhere in between.</p><br />How do we keep the peace without feeling forced to agree or, worse, getting drawn into a fight? This episode dives into real, practical strategies to manage family dynamics this holiday season. We'll explore why we’re wired to seek conformity, how today’s digital “tribes” fuel polarization, and how you can set healthy boundaries to enjoy a conflict-free Thanksgiving.</p><br /><strong>Takeaways</strong></p><ul><li>Understanding "tribalism" and why we're wired to seek conformity</li><li>Why humans fight - or avoid - when our sense of security and belonging is threatened</li><li>Practical tips to navigate politically charged family gatherings</li><li>How to stay grounded when relatives bring up controversial topics</li><li>The power of setting boundaries to prevent heated holiday discussions</li></ul><br /></p><strong>BIG (BUT EASY) ASK: Would you please take three minutes to fill out the super-short, super-easy </strong><a href="https://forms.gle/yLg3dTimtoDFd8jy7" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sounds Like Therapy Listener Survey</strong></a>? Not only do you get a chance to submit your own question, which may be answered on a future episode of Sounds Like Therapy, but if you fill out the survey between now and Thanksgiving 2024, you'll be entered for a chance to win a $50 GIFT CARD as a token of my thanks for your time.</p><br /><em>Disclaimer: while this podcast sounds like therapy, it is not actually therapy nor is it a substitute for therapy, and while I am a therapist, I am not YOUR therapist. Please be entertained and encouraged, and seek appropriate mental health support from a licensed therapist in your community, if necessary. </em></p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:19:53

Goodbye Honest Women, Hello Sounds Like Therapy!

<strong><em>Vulnerability alert! </em></strong> While it's tempting to present the first episode of my new podcast, <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em>, as if it were a nearly effortless (but highly impressive) pivot I made after my last podcast went up in smoke about a month ago... that wouldn't be very on-brand for someone who used to co-host a podcast called <em>Honest Women. </em></p><br />Instead, I'm bringing you behind the scenes of the last month, as I've navigated the vulnerable journey from co-hosting <em>Honest Women</em> to launching <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em> on my own. I’ll let you in on the real ups and downs I’ve experienced trying to bring this show to life—from self-doubt and meltdowns to the lightbulb moment where <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em> really started to take shape.</p><br />And, most importantly, I finally get to tell you about the new show!</p><br />In <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em>, we’re diving into the real relationship questions you’re grappling with—whether it’s tension with your partner, parenting struggles, or navigating complicated dynamics with friends, family, or coworkers. Each week, I’ll work through a listener-submitted question, making sense of what’s really going on and offering practical, therapist-approved next steps you can actually use. And don’t worry; no vague therapy-speak or abstract concepts here. I'm keeping it short, real, and action-packed!</p><br />So, if you’re ready to work through some real-life relationship challenges together, hit play!</p><br /><strong>BIG (BUT EASY) ASK: Would you please take three minutes to fill out the super-short, super-easy </strong><a href="https://forms.gle/yLg3dTimtoDFd8jy7" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sounds Like Therapy Listener Survey</strong></a>? Not only do you get a chance to submit your own question, which may be answered on a future episode of Sounds Like Therapy, but if you fill out the survey between now and Thanksgiving 2024, you'll be entered for a chance to win a $50 GIFT CARD as a token of my thanks for your time. </p><br /><em>Disclaimer: while this podcast sounds like therapy, it is not actually therapy nor is it a substitute for therapy, and while I am a therapist, I am not YOUR therapist. Please be entertained and encouraged, and seek appropriate mental health support from a licensed therapist in your community, if necessary. </em></p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:16:32

Introducing Sounds Like Therapy: Your New Go-To for Relationship Advice

<br /></p>Welcome to <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em>! I’m Andrea Burkly - a real-life therapist and mom of four - here to help you tackle the relationship challenges that keep you up at night.</p><br />Maybe it's the stress you feel watching your daughter try to navigate the middle school mean girls...or the tension you can't seem to escape each time you see your competitive sister. Maybe it's the lack of connection you feel with your husband... or the way you act like a teenager every time you're around your own mother. Or maybe it's... basically everything... about your in-laws. It's all fair play on <em>Sounds Like Therapy. </em></p><br />Each week, I'll dig into a real-life relationship struggle. And just like I do in my therapy office, I’ll help you make sense of the situation with empathy and insight, and give you practical guidance so you know what to do next.</p><br />Press play on this trailer to learn what you can expect, how to submit your own questions, and why <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em> might just be your new weekly ritual. Because a little perspective can make all the difference.</p><br /><strong>Want your question answered on an upcoming episode of Sounds Like Therapy? Fill out the super-short, super-easy </strong><a href="https://forms.gle/yLg3dTimtoDFd8jy7" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Sounds Like Therapy Listener Survey</strong></a><strong> </strong></p><br /><em>Disclaimer: while this podcast sounds like therapy, it is not actually therapy nor is it a substitute for therapy, and while I am a therapist, I am not YOUR therapist. Please be entertained and encouraged, and seek appropriate mental health support from a licensed therapist in your community, if necessary. </em></p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:02:12

JUST FOR YOU! Andrea's New Podcast - Sounds Like Therapy - is Almost Here!

Be on the lookout!<strong> Andrea's new podcast, <em>Sounds Like Therapy</em>, will be popping up in your podcast player of choice... SO SOON! </strong></p><br />If you're "following" the Honest Women Podcast, the new show will automatically pop up in your podcast feed. Boom! Like magic! </p><br />But I wanted to give you a heads up, because the cover art will be different, and I didn't want you to think "what the heck is this??" and scroll past it. </p><br /><em>(the new cover art is a super cool blue thumbnail with a silhouette of a woman, with the words "Sounds Like Therapy with Andrea Burkly" at the bottom)</em></p><br />That's it! That's the new show! And I can't wait for you to hear it!!</p><br />In the meantime, here's a little message from me (Andrea), just for you!</p><br />Want to learn more about the end of the Honest Women Podcast? You can find all of the deets <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-end-of-an-era/id1683031647?i=1000672201860" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here, in our final episode.</a></p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:03:03

The end of an era…

Honest Women, it's with a heavy heart that we are announcing today the end of this chapter. We are so grateful to each and every one of you who listened. Tune in to hear where we're going next <3</p><br />Follow Jessica on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jlhutchisonlcpc/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @jlhutchisonlcpc</a></p>Follow Andrea on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/andreaburkly/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @andreaburkly</a></p><br />Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast:<a href="http://www.honestwomenpodcast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> www.honestwomenpodcast.com</a></p><br />Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a <em>little</em> more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.</p><br /><em>Disclaimer: Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.</em></p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:50:31

I can't have a Baby, am I Broken?

Today, we delve into the emotional complexities surrounding infertility, miscarriage, and pregnancy loss. We discuss the societal expectations of family planning, the identity crisis that can arise from these experiences, and the importance of setting boundaries and finding support.</p><br /><em>WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!</em></p>Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! <em>Join here:</em> https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity</p><br />And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com</p><br />Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/honestwomenpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @honestwomenpodcast</a></p>Follow Jessica on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jlhutchisonlcpc/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @jlhutchisonlcpc</a></p>Follow Andrea on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/andreaburkly/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @andreaburkly</a></p><br />Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast:<a href="http://www.honestwomenpodcast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> www.honestwomenpodcast.com</a></p><br />Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.</p><em>Disclaimer:</em></p>Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.</p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:30:01

HOT TAKE: Why your teen WON'T Talk to You...

Timing is crucial when initiating conversations with your teen. Today, we're discussing how to foster open communication by being available and approachable.</p><br /><em>WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!</em></p>Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! <em>Join here:</em> https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity</p><br />And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com</p><br />Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/honestwomenpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @honestwomenpodcast</a></p>Follow Jessica on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jlhutchisonlcpc/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @jlhutchisonlcpc</a></p>Follow Andrea on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/andreaburkly/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @andreaburkly</a></p><br />Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast:<a href="http://www.honestwomenpodcast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> www.honestwomenpodcast.com</a></p><br />Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.</p><em>Disclaimer:</em></p>Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.</p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:28:05

Help! I'm scared of my teen!

Today we explore the complexities of parenting teenagers, discussing the emotional challenges, behavioral issues, and the importance of establishing boundaries.</p><br /><em>WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!</em></p>Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! <em>Join here:</em> https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity</p><br />And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com</p><br />Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/honestwomenpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @honestwomenpodcast</a></p>Follow Jessica on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jlhutchisonlcpc/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @jlhutchisonlcpc</a></p>Follow Andrea on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/andreaburkly/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @andreaburkly</a></p><br />Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast:<a href="http://www.honestwomenpodcast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> www.honestwomenpodcast.com</a></p><br />Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.</p><em>Disclaimer:</em></p>Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.</p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:38:19

Do you have Autumn Anxiety?

The transition from summer to fall can be overwhelming, especially for parents who have to manage the start of the school year and all the associated activities and responsibilities. Today, we're talking about slowing down, prioritizing self-care, and focusing on the basics.</p><br /><em>WE WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!</em></p>Whether you want your own question answered on Hot Take Thursday, want to discuss the latest Honest Women episode, or just want a place where you can be real with other people and talk about life honestly... the best place to do that is our BRAND NEW FACEBOOK GROUP! <em>Join here:</em> https://www.facebook.com/groups/honestwomenpodcastcommunity</p><br />And if you have a real-world scenario you want us to discuss, a bug in your bonnet about something going on in the world, or just want to say hello, and you don't have facebook, please email us: hello@honestwomenpodcast.com</p><br />Follow Honest Women Podcast on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/honestwomenpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @honestwomenpodcast</a></p>Follow Jessica on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/jlhutchisonlcpc/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @jlhutchisonlcpc</a></p>Follow Andrea on IG:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/andreaburkly/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> @andreaburkly</a></p><br />Learn more about the Honest Women Podcast:<a href="http://www.honestwomenpodcast.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> www.honestwomenpodcast.com</a></p><br />Honest Women is the podcast for every woman juggling the demands of modern life (while trying to keep her shit together) and finding that it’s all just a little more difficult than she thought it would be. Your hosts, Andrea Burkly and Jessica Hutchison, are two very real mental health professionals who are taking honest conversations from inside their offices to the outside world.</p><em>Disclaimer:</em></p>Please note while this podcast features two therapists, and may feel very therapeutic, this is not therapy! Please be entertained, and know that through our creative content, we are not providing mental health care. No diagnosis. No treatment. No medical advice. Just creative content. Please seek appropriate mental health support in the real world.</p><br /><hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

00:36:33