Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson: The Stories We Tell That Heal or Deepen Our Burnout

<span>“I often say that story is the most powerful tool on earth and I really believe that,” says today’s FRIED guest Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson, who, as the founder and CEO of the Heartwood Leadership Institute, has helped countless Fortune 500 executives step into their leadership. Today she joins host Cait Donovan to discuss the stories we tell ourselves—about who we are, what life and work are meant to be like and how these stories manifest in our lives and even in our bodies until we finally dig deep down and investigate what’s underneath them. The two women discuss the most common stories people—particularly those who end up burning out—tell themselves about worthiness, visibility and attempting to go the journey alone.</span></p><br /></p><span>Ingrained into us at the deepest cultural level are all the variations of author Joseph Campbell’s “hero’s journey”—wherein the protagonist sets out on a journey, encounters and overcomes obstacles and emerges victorious. Jacquelyn and Cait discuss the destructive messages this classic trope can nonetheless instill in us about our value being determined by how hard we struggle. </span></p><br /></p><span>One of the most powerful aspects of storytelling is its malleability. Join today’s conversation to learn how to shape the story you tell about yourself. </span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li><span>“I really had to look myself in the face. I had to look at what I was doing, how I was behaving, and for me it really came down to one internal state and the stories that I was telling myself about who I was…and story was a huge part of that…Story helped me come back from that experience and become someone else.” (9:07 | Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson)</span></li><li><span>“It said to me, ‘I will only have to overcome something hard once, and once I’ve overcome this hard thing, I’m good.’ You know what it said to me? ‘Until I overcome a hard thing, I have no value, because if I haven’t overcome a hard thing, then where’s my value?’ And I didn’t give any credence to any of the hard things that came before burnout because those hard things were not as hard as other people’s hard things.’” (19:29 | Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson and Cait Donovan)</span></li><li><span>“This is story. It is malleable. It is based on our own interpretation of it, and so if we are living story unconsciously without actually looking at it, without talking about it, without seeing it for what it is and surfacing it, boy is it powerful and it is operating underneath everything.” (22:03 | Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson)</span></li><li><span>“We have our own legends. We have our own myths in our lives and that legend influenced much of my life and many of my decisions and it wasn’t until this big diagnosis where I was like, ‘Honey, you can’t do this alone,’ and my gosh—I learned more about love and about the people and what support looks like and what acts of love look like than I have ever experienced in my life.”(35:50 | Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson)</span></li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Jacquelyn Fletcher Johnson:</strong></p><a href="https://www.heartwoodleadership.com" rel="nofollow">https://www.heartwoodleadership.com</a><span> </span></p><a href="https://jacquelynfletcherjohnson.substack.com/" rel="nofollow">https://jacquelynfletcherjohnson.substack.com/</a><a href="https://jacquelynfletcherjohnson.substack.com/" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/jacquelynfletcherjohnson" rel="nofollow">www.linkedin.com/in/jacquelynfletcherjohnson</a><a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/jacquelynfletcherjohnson" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="http://bit.ly/bouncebackorder" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/bouncebackorder</a><a href="http://bit.ly/bouncebackorder" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Coyote-Wisdom-Power-Story-Healing/dp/1591430291" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/Coyote-Wisdom-Power-Story-Healing/dp/1591430291</a><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Coyote-Wisdom-Power-Story-Healing/dp/1591430291" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://www.jcf.org/learn/joseph-campbell-heros-journey" rel="nofollow">https://www.jcf.org/learn/joseph-campbell-heros-journey</a><a href="https://www.jcf.org/learn/joseph-campbell-heros-journey" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://bit.ly/exec-retreat" rel="nofollow">https://bit.ly/exec-retreat</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><br /></p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p><br /></p>

00:51:35

Cait Donovan: The Rule of Thirds - Why Burnout Recovery Isn’t About Feeling Great All the Time

<span>“I want you to give yourself permission to live in this rule of thirds,” says host Cait Donovan, borrowing a concept that Olympic runner Alexi Pappas recently shared online. Alexi's coach told her that anything you're doing right will feel a combination of good, bad and just neutral. Cait explains how this applies to burnout recovery, and how to incorporate it into your own life.</span></p><br /></p><span>She also discusses fourth grade teacher Ryan Brazil's viral clip which explains that we are not obligated to blindly follow our first and, perhaps, most impulsive thoughts. Instead, we have the power to adhere to or act upon any one of the many successive thoughts that align more with who we want to be.</span></p><br /></p><span>Cait shares a story from her own life where she chose to place emphasis on her second thought of compassion over her first thought of judgement.</span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li><span>“If you are adhering to those thirds, it means you’re on the right path. You’re doing the right things. You’re pushing yourself hard enough but you’re not pushing yourself too hard. You are enjoying the good moments, you are paying attention to the things that aren’t great so you can fix them. You’re sort of doing all the right things. This is so true in burnout recovery.” (2:13 | Caitlin Donovan)</span></li><li><span>“The fact of the matter is, your sleep is going to be bad, something external is going to happen, you’re going to have to prep for a conversation or an action item. You’re going to be disappointed in yourself for not sticking to a food regiment, or you’re going to—whatever. There are a million reasons to be in that space, but we don’t want you to be in that space for four days a week. We don’t want you to be in that space for seven days at a time, unless the next week is neutral and the week after that is great.” (4:58 | Caitlin Donovan)</span></li><li><span>“I do remember having that second thought and thinking, ‘I would rather choose this way to think about myself and other people because I think it’s healthier and I think it’s safer.’ That doesn’t mean that when somebody’s really doing something terrible, you should excuse it and try to interpret it differently so you can explain it away.” (9:31 | Caitlin Donovan)</span></li><li><span>“You get to decide which thought you stop on because the thought you stop on is probably the thought that you’re going to repeat to yourself.”  (11:12 | Caitlin Donovan)</span></li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><span>Alexi Pappas:</span><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKndqq0CsRc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKndqq0CsRc" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKndqq0CsRc</a></p><span>Ryan Brazil:</span><a href="https://www.instagram.com/mrs.brazil_28/reel/C_MRG4vSh4g/" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/mrs.brazil_28/reel/C_MRG4vSh4g/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/mrs.brazil_28/reel/C_MRG4vSh4g/</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><br /></p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p><br /></p>

00:11:55

Sarah Yovovich: Healing Burnout from Emotional Abuse with Five Element Wisdom and Strong Boundaries

<span>“Part of the empowerment is recognizing that the things that you’re weak in are actually just the flip side of your strengths,” explains Sarah Yovovich, teacher writer and body worker, who joins FRIED to discuss the kind of burnout which results from emotional abuse. The same emotional intuition that kept her empathizing with her abuser makes her a profound healer, deeply tuned into her clients’ emotional, physical and energetic layers through Thai massage--a meditation on loving kindness. Today, she speaks to Sarah Vosen about the five elements of Chinese medicine, how they changed her life and helped her heal from burnout.</span></p><br /></p><span>They also make her feel more connected to all elements of the world around her, a concept with which Sarah Jovovich, in turn, empowers her clients. She discusses the importance of community supporting each other and working in tandem. She also explains how she learned to set boundaries, for others’ benefit as much as her own.</span></p><br /></p><span>Join the two friends in a discussion about healing and empowerment, the pitfalls of being a “terminal optimist” and why abuse is like an expressway.</span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li><span>“The way my sister put it was that when you live by an expressway you get used to the noise and the pollution and you don’t realize how much it’s wearing you down until you step away from it. And the stepping away from it was really difficult in this case because the expressway was my co-parent and my roommate in a very expensive city.” (10:22 | Sarah Yovovich)</span></li><li><span>“When you’re in an abusive relationship, your nervous system is constantly being attacked. You’re in fight, flight, freeze or fawn all the time. If you’re living with somebody who’s being abusive of you, you never relax, and so your body starts to wear out from that.” (12:28 | Sarah Yovovich)</span></li><li><span>“It allows me to recognize just how much I am a part of everything that happens all around me—of the seasons, of the planet, of the flow of energies in the universe, and to create stories around that that help me make sense of my life and my experiences. It’s also been really empowering in my healing work as a way to help other people make sense of what they’re feeling in their bodies and not feel like they’re at the whim of some tyrant body that’s misbehaving, but start to put together authority… to see how all these things are connected and work with them instead of against them.” (27:25 | Sarah Yovovich)</span></li><li><span>“That’s actually part of the empowerment is recognizing that the things that you’re weak in are not something to beat yourself up about. It’s actually just the flip side of your strength and that there are four other kinds of elements who have the strengths that you don’t have that are probably part of your community and you can support each other. It just proves to me we’re meant to work together.” (39:17 | Sarah Yovovich and Sarah Vosen)</span></li></ul><br /></p><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Sarah Yovovich:</strong></p><a href="https://www.sarahpeutics.org" rel="nofollow">https://www.sarahpeutics.org</a><a href="https://www.sarahpeutics.org" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://instagram.com/acro.mama" rel="nofollow">https://instagram.com/acro.mama</a><a href="https://instagram.com/acro.mama" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-yovovich-2124b07" rel="nofollow">www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-yovovich-2124b07</a><a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-yovovich-2124b07" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://sarahpeutics.mn.co/plans/52216?bundle_token=62c36ddc4adc3001097cd7c8962de3f4&utm_source=manual" rel="nofollow">https://sarahpeutics.mn.co/plans/52216?bundle_token=62c36ddc4adc3001097cd7c8962de3f4&utm_source=manual</a></p><br /></p><span>One-on-one coaching free call with Sarah Vosen:</span></p><a href="https://caitdonovan.as.me/coachwithsarah" rel="nofollow">https://caitdonovan.as.me/coachwithsarah</a><a href="https://caitdonovan.as.me/coachwithsarah" rel="nofollow"> </a><span> Element constitution quiz:</span><a href="https://s.pointerpro.com/primaryelement" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://s.pointerpro.com/primaryelement" rel="nofollow">https://s.pointerpro.com/primaryelement</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><br /></p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p><br /></p>

00:56:57

Roslyn McLarty: Founder Burnout and The Bravery of Going WITHIN

<span>“I just didn’t feel like I had the permission to bring that part of myself into the workplace and say, ‘Hey, I want to start making some shifts,’”says Roslyn McLarty, of her time as co-founder of the GIST, a women-run sports media brand, making sports more inclusive. As the company grew, so did the responsibilities and overwhelm, and she found herself growing away from the company. Since completing burnout recovery coaching with Cait through Cait’s Wayfinder program, Roslyn has learned that when you act in integrity with what your mind, body and soul want to do, not only do you deliver the most impact, you have more to offer the company, and as a founder, set the example for those around you. On today’s episode of FRIED, she shares how her journey through burnout has informed the founding of her latest venture Within, a personal development platform for purpose-driven leaders. </span></p><br /></p><span>A large part of Roslyn’s burnout recovery included learning to be present in her body—rather than just living inside of her own head—and get in better touch with her intuition. She learned to get to the root of her people-pleasing tendencies, to release her resentments and frustration. </span></p><br /></p><span>Roslyn’s story proves what a difference a year can truly make. Join today’s discussion to hear the advice she has for founders based on what she’s learned throughout her own journey. </span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li><span>“I think awareness is the first step. I think the harder thing, for me, is even just believing that you are deserving of doing work that you enjoy and that maybe you have something to bring to the table other than what you thought.” (12:35 | Roslyn McLarty)</span></li><li><span>“Those parts of me weren’t being fully utilized at the company, and I think they could have been really valuable but I just didn’t feel like I had the permission to bring that part of myself into the workplace and say, ‘Hey, I want to start making some shifts toward these energy-giving areas for me, so that I can stay in the company sustainably, so that I can have something that’s filling my cup so that I can do this and some of the other things that I inevitably need to do that maybe aren’t the most energy-giving but can we at least figure something out.’” (13:10 | Roslyn McLarty) </span></li><li><span>“Before going through all this I was someone who operated fully from the shoulders up, in my head. I wasn’t connected to my body’s intuition. I wasn’t hearing the signs that I was burning out or that things weren’t right, that something wasn’t integrity for me, in my life.’” (19:43 | Roslyn McLarty)</span></li><li><span>“When you’re someone who’s been holding it all in and putting everybody first… you don’t know another way of being, whether it’s how you cope or how you were taught. So, to realize there’s a different way and you can let it all out is really empowering.” (24:50 | Roslyn McLarty)</span></li><li><span>“I think that’s the thing that gets in the way: people just believe if I’m not working hard, I’m not going to be successful or I’m not creating value, and actually, if you’re working too hard, you’re not of service to your company. So, trying to shift to this idea that you should be working in a scope that works for you and lights you up.” (36:14 | Roslyn McLarty)</span></li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Roslyn McLarty:</strong></p><a href="https://within.beehiiv.com/" rel="nofollow">https://within.beehiiv.com/</a><a href="https://within.beehiiv.com/" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/roslynmclarty/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/roslynmclarty/</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/roslynmclarty/" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/roslyn-mclarty-51058223" rel="nofollow">www.linkedin.com/in/roslyn-mclarty-51058223</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><br /></p><br /></p><span>.</span><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p>

00:54:26

Nicole Maitland: Riding Life’s Waves – Trusting Your Body During Emotional Uncertainty

<span>“Cool, this is an emotion, but what is it telling me? What is the information?” asks Nicole Maitland, host of the podcast “Yarns for the Soul” and today’s guest on this episode of FRIED hosted by Sarah Vosen. The same high level of sensitivity that made Nicole an effective human rights lawyer in her native New Zealand made her vicariously vulnerable to her clients’ trauma, and her people-pleasing tendencies drove her to give her best to those clients even as her body was screaming for her to stop. Today, Nicole explains how she is learning to give herself the time, space and permission to feel her feelings without guilt or judgment, and what’s more, to learn to determine the message and information her emotions are trying to deliver. </span></p><br /></p><span>She compares emotions to waves, and the messages the emotions contain, to boats. When we let the waves wash over us and pay attention to the boats, we can receive the message that ultimately helps us bring ourselves more into what Sarah calls “soul alignment”— the lack of which is what leads to burnout in the first place. Nicole also talks about listening to the messages your body is trying to tell you, either through the symptoms of burnout, or in the subtle ways your gut and heart are trying to lead you in the right direction. </span></p><br /></p><span>Currently, Nicole is living the life of a “slow nomad,” and in turn is learning to let her soul be a “free and easy wanderer.” Learn more about her journey, how working with a naturopath changed her perspective and what she learned about life from growing up on her family’s farm. </span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li><span>“As I look back now, that was kind of the last domino to fall. I can see that I was already chronically stressed probably from when I first started as a lawyer, even maybe before, when I was studying at university. And then I kind of just kept pushing because I didn’t know what else to do.” (6:13 | Nicole Maitland)</span></li><li><span>“Riding those waves, you can see if there’s a boat that’s coming along and so, the wave itself is a certain emotion—it could be anger, sadness or whatever it is—but if you detach from the wave and look at the boat, which is a message…What is it trying to tell me?” (18:54| Nicole Maitland)</span></li><li><span>“I know some people aren’t label-oriented, they don’t need a diagnosis but I think, for me, that’s where I’ve struggled because I find those labels helpful… now having the words of ‘highly sensitive person,’ I can use that as a lens to reflect back on everything, particularly my work as a lawyer and thinking, ‘Oh, that’s why I was different. That’s why I functioned differently,’ kind of bringing kindness to previous versions of myself.” (31:20 | Nicole Maitland) </span></li><li><span>“Physically, it can come from different places. It’s the heart, or the gut, possibly. The heart is, ‘What am I really feeling? What feels aligned?’ The gut is more the intuition, those things that you maybe can’t explain, but a little message or a tap on the shoulder, ‘I don’t know why, but let’s follow that.’  (44:18 | Nicole Maitland)</span></li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Nicole Maitland:</strong></p><a href="https://nicole28j.wixsite.com/nicole-maitland-1" rel="nofollow">https://nicole28j.wixsite.com/nicole-maitland-1</a></p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/yarnsforthesoulnicole/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/yarnsforthesoulnicole/</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/yarnsforthesoulnicole/" rel="nofollow"> </a></p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicole-maitland-4544706a/" rel="nofollow">https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicole-maitland-4544706a/</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p><br /></p>

00:54:46

Bryan Huhn, CFP: Money Stress, Burnout, and Living According to Joy

<span>“What’s more important: being happy for having some stupid business card?” Asks Bryan Huhn, who joins FRIED today to discuss the relationship between financial stress and burnout, particularly when we allow the money we’re making—and the money we think we can’t live without—to convince us we need to remain in jobs that are making us miserable even to the point of illness. Bryan spent years valuing what people thought of him more than his own genuine passions and in an effort to people-please, pursued a career in finance rather than his dream of becoming a baseball coach. This led to a toxic cycle where his self-worth was tied to a job he had no passion for and therefore didn’t excel at, the stress of which, he believes, contributed to a cancer diagnosis in 2015. </span></p><br /></p><span>With what he’s learned, he wants to help others make the most of their money so that they can create the best lives for themselves, and don’t have to spend another minute in jobs that they hate. As he explains to host Cait Donovan, this requires being brutally honest with yourself about where your money is going, what that says about what you value, and how you can start financially planning so that you can buy your freedom without wasting any more of that resource that is perhaps more valuable than money: your time. </span></p><br /></p><span>This requires getting real with yourself, while at the same time refraining from judging yourself or comparing yourself to anyone else. Join today’s episode of FRIED to learn how your approach to financial planning will help you start to live your best life. </span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li><span>“That’s one thing I would say: Don’t ever compare. If there’s something you’ve been through, even if it seems really minor, it has a major impact on your life and the way your brain works. So, having that self-compassion, I think, is really important.” (4:43 | Bryan Huhn)</span></li><li><span>“Money is imaginary. It literally is not real. We, as humans, just decided, ‘Hey, this thing, this piece of paper, this U.S. dollar is worth something and we all agree that it is, and that’s how we’re going to interact with one another and get the things we want. It could just as easily be Bitcoin. It’s not real, so why should your goal be to maximize how much of it you accumulate? No, the purpose of it is to live the best freaking life that you can possibly live.” (20:33 | Bryan Huhn) </span></li><li><span>“OK, where’s my money going? So, what am I valuing? Because if you really want to know what someone cares about, look at their bank statement and their calendar. The time and the money. It’s a really good way to measure that. So, it almost forces you to do that deep work that so many people resist.” (27:35 | Bryan Huhn)</span></li><li><span>“There’s no judgment there. It’s just being honest with yourself and I think a lot of times, especially in my industry, they make people feel really judged. It’s kind of cliche to hear a financial planner say, ‘Don’t spend six bucks on your Starbucks coffee every morning. Shut up. Don’t tell people what they should value, but help them figure it out and help them be brutally honest with themselves.” (30:13 | Bryan Huhn)</span></li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Bryan Huhn:</strong></p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanhuhn/" rel="nofollow">https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanhuhn/</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p><br /></p>

00:47:13

#straightfromcait: Getting Out Of The Toxic Workplace Burnout Cycle

<span>Ready to leave burnout behind for good? Join UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start reclaiming your energy and joy. </span><a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">Apply today!</a><span> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</span></p><br /></p><span>“The problem isn’t you; the problem is the toxic workplace,” explains host Caitlin Donovan on this latest #straightfromcait episode of FRIED, in which she discusses the dangers of returning to a toxic workplace only to repeat the burnout cycle again, as if you never made any recovery progress. Too often we’re led to believe that if we improve ourselves enough, we can develop an immunity against a bad environment, which, as Cait says, simply isn’t true. </span></p><br /></p><span>On today’s episode, she explains why you should reconsider returning to your toxic workplace, and, if you do find yourself there, what to do if you find yourself unsupported. She discusses the common feelings of isolation, loneliness, emotional and mental paralysis and low self-esteem that accompany this scenario, and the devastating effects of bullies in the workplace. </span></p><br /></p><span>You’ve come too far in your burnout recovery to jump back into the very situation that got you burned out in the first place. Join Cait today to learn the importance of being aware of, and listening to your body responses, to better detect and determine if your environment is safe. </span></p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><br /></p><ul><li><span>“What happens, because of pop culture and pop psychology, is people assume that if they just get stronger, have better boundaries or can manage their emotions better, that somehow they will be able to manage and handle a toxic environment. That would be like saying, ‘If I just meditate enough, I can swim in toxic chemicals and they won’t bother my body.’ That’s just not true.” (2:56 | Caitlin Donovan) </span></li><li><span>“There are a lot of people who explain that they, after something like this happens, are left with really low confidence. They’re feeling worthless, they feel socially isolated. They don’t know how to search for a new job; they’re nervous about searching for a new job. They’re wondering if they’ll ever be able to work again. Their social circle often doesn’t know how to respond, which is not their social circle’s fault, most people are just not educated well enough in the realms of burnout to have these conversations easily.” (6:37 | Caitlin Donovan) </span></li><li><span>“And then that social isolation turns into loneliness, and you feel like the odd one out and you feel like, ‘Oh, my God, why is everybody around me making it in life and I can’t hang, I can’t hack it.’ And then that turns into a general feeling of despair.” (7:08 | Caitlin Donovan)</span></li><li><span>“It only takes one bully, one crappy boss to set things totally sideways. And I know that people who work in HR and leaders don’t want to hear that one crappy boss can really ruin it like that for someone, but they can, and they do, and the cost is magnificent. The cost is immense for this person.” (9:38 | Caitlin Donovan)</span></li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p><span>Initial Call with Cait: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p><span>Initial Call with Sarah: </span><a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p><span>Ready to leave burnout behind for good? Join UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start reclaiming your energy and joy. </span><a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">Apply today!</a><span> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</span></p><br /></p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p><br /></p>

00:12:15

Daisy Auger-Dominguez: Burnt Out Leaders Lead Burnt Out Teams

Ready to leave burnout behind for good? Join UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start reclaiming your energy and joy. <a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">Apply today!</a> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</p>“How do we rewrite the playbook together?” asks Daisy Auger-Dominguez, global leader, workplace strategist and author of the upcoming book “From Burnt Out to Lit Up,” on today’s episode of FRIED. The contemporary workplace is in major flux at the moment. In addition to being in collective burnout that we’ve just been able to give a name to, we’re also in what Daisy calls a “messy middle,” where workers are still learning how to effectively use their voices and leaders are trying to navigate these rapidly changing waters with archaic methods. So, how can leaders gain the skills to lead high-performing teams, shift workplace culture, and drive performance without causing more burnout? By showing up differently, modeling vulnerability and humanity for their workers, so that they feel seen, can heal, and eventually, help change the system from the inside out.</p><br /></p>Today Daisy talks about what it takes to do such healing. It includes being conscious of your sacrifices, weighing the pros and cons of your decisions, replenishing your social battery and staying on top of your cultural debt. Many leaders fall into the trap of thinking they’re needed everywhere 24/7—when delegating not only eases the leader’s burden but lets capable workers shine. </p><br /></p>Daisy explains how we can acknowledge the undue burden many groups experience in the workplace while exercising agency that helps not only us thrive but others as well. By rewriting the stories we tell ourselves, we help remodel the current paradigm of workplace culture into something better. </p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li>“That’s what we’re hoping for from our leaders. We’re hoping that they will help us, get us to the other side, and that they will do so vulnerably; that they will do so with humanity; and that they will do so in a way that allows us to feel seen, validated and understood so that we can deliver to our best capacity.” (9:24 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)</li><li>“I do believe that when you tell the world that you have boundaries, you tell the world that you matter. But I also think …what I do for me is also what I model for others so that—they don’t have to do what I’m doing, but they can create the conditions where they can thrive.” (20:40 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)</li><li>“One of the practices in the book that I share is about reframing our narratives, reframing our stories, because for a long time, the story I told myself was, ‘As a woman… As a woman of color…’’ all these ‘only’ characteristics that you have, I needed to show up differently. And to be fair, and this is to your naysayer listener, I had to. I really did have to.” (24:07 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)</li><li>“I know the system has failed me, but how do I exercise my agency to figure out how I thrive in this way, and by doing that, help change the system? Because by my figuring out, ‘How do I show up differently, and ‘How do I help others show up differently,’ we help build that new leadership. We were just talking about how most leaders are using the same old playbook. Well, how do we rewrite the playbook together?” (27:02 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez) </li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Daisy Auger-Dominguez:</strong></p><a href="https://www.daisyauger-dominguez.com" rel="nofollow">https://www.daisyauger-dominguez.com</a></p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/daisyaugerdominguez/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/daisyaugerdominguez/ </a><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/daisyaugerdominguez/" rel="nofollow">https://www.linkedin.com/in/daisyaugerdominguez/</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p>Initial Call with Cait: <a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p>Initial Call with Sarah: <a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p>Burnout doesn’t have to be your story. Apply to UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start your journey toward lasting recovery. Spots are limited—<a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">apply now!</a> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p>

00:54:10

Cathy Richards: Aging Gracefully, Burnout and Dementia

Ready to leave burnout behind for good? Join UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start reclaiming your energy and joy. <a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">Apply today!</a> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</p><br /></p>“What kind of 85-year-old do you want to be?” asks Cathy Richards, exercise physiologist, wellness coach and best-selling author of “Boom! Six Steps to Living a Longer, Healthier Life” who joins the podcast to help us learn what we can do to protect our brains against neurodegenerative diseases such as dementia and Alzheimer’s Disease. The habits we build now—starting with as little as just five minutes a day—will help, in large part, to determine the quality of our later years.</p><br /></p>The best thing you can do? Get moving. This doesn’t have to mean exercise. Cathy and Cait discuss the power of movement to not only yield physical benefits such as weight loss, but helps to promote neuroplasticity that will help us develop healthier thoughts and, ultimately, belief systems. The point is to build small consistent habits over time.</p><br /></p>The future is coming faster than we think. Though none of us has entire control over it, we can begin today to form the best version of ourselves in the future.</p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li>“I will say that I think that sleep is one of the biggest things we can do…I don’t think in general that sleep is protected as much and it’s not part of American culture to get enough sleep, I would say, in my opinion. I feel like we’re always deciding if we have more to do, we just stay up late and we get up early.” (9:32 | Cathy Richards)</li><li>“Totally modest investment of time can yield enormous benefits. It doesn’t have to be a lot, it doesn’t have to be complicated and we really can’t afford not to. That’s the thing, if we could prescribe movement, whether it’s for migraines, or whatever it is, or whatever your problem, movement can fix it, or can help fix it. Almost every single solitary time.” (17:30 | Cathy Richards) </li><li>“People get stressed out thinking, ‘What do I need to do to prevent my heart disease?...what do I need to do to protect my brain?’ Guess what? It’s all the same list…Moving your body has more impact on your brain function than anything else you could do.” (33:18 | Cathy Richards) </li><li>“You don’t turn into the kind of 85-year-old that’s in a nursing home versus traveling the world at 84. We’re building the kind of 85-year-old we want to be right now.” (47:52 | Cathy Richards)</li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Cathy Richards:</strong></p><a href="https://www.cathyrichards.net/blog/taking-a-year-to-inspire-vitality-in-yourself" rel="nofollow">https://www.cathyrichards.net/blog/taking-a-year-to-inspire-vitality-in-yourself </a><a href="https://www.cathyrichards.neet" rel="nofollow">https://www.cathyrichards.neet </a></p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/inspiringvitality" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/inspiringvitality </a></p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathymrichards/" rel="nofollow">https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathymrichards/ </a></p><a href="https://www.cathyrichards.net/brainpower.html" rel="nofollow">https://www.cathyrichards.net/brainpower.html </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/intentionallivingandlongevity" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/groups/intentionallivingandlongevity</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p>Initial Call with Cait: <a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p>Initial Call with Sarah: <a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p>Burnout doesn’t have to be your story. Apply to UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start your journey toward lasting recovery. Spots are limited—<a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">apply now!</a> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p>

00:49:43

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: The 7 Types of Rest

Ready to leave burnout behind for good? Join UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start reclaiming your energy and joy. <a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">Apply today!</a> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</p><br /></p>“We really need to break our limitations of what we say rest is,” says Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, a board-certified internal medicine physician, internationally renowned thought leader on well-being, and author of the bestselling book “Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity.” By overwhelming demand, Dr. Saundra joins the FRIED podcast to discuss the seven types of rest, which she explains is distinct from—but nonetheless essential to—sleep. She’ll explain how you can determine in which area of your life—from the mental, physical and emotional, to the sensorial, spiritual and creative—-you are experiencing the greatest rest deficit, and how you can begin to fill those empty buckets amidst your busy life, not around it. </p><br /></p>Along the way she reveals some surprising insights about the nature of rest and unpacks some of our most enduring misconceptions about it. Often what we think of as rest is really more work and when we think we are relaxing we are just indulging ourselves. She explains the difference between fitting in and true belonging, why trauma dumping can actually cause more stress, and why that watercolor painting class is not as creatively restoring as you may think it is. </p><br /></p>Over 250,000 people have discovered their personal rest deficit with Dr. Saundra’s help. Join today’s episode to learn how you can discover yours and start your journey toward overcoming burnout and living your best life. </p><br /></p><strong>Quotes</strong></p><ul><li>“I got to this point where I realized all of the work and energy that I put into building that life that looks so good, I could put the same energy into building a life that actually felt good, and that actually was a life that was satisfying and did give me the things that I desire.” (4:49 | Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith) </li><li>“Do something. Don’t settle for exhaustion. I feel like that’s the culture we’ve lived in. We’ve settled for, ‘Well this is just how everybody feels. Everybody’s burnt out. Everyone’s exhausted. Nobody’s happy.’ It’s not true. It’s a lie.” (13:51 | Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith)</li><li>“I think for a lot of people, we feel like sleep is the end all/be all of rest. And so we try to bypass all other forms of stress and just go straight to, ‘Give me six, seven, eight hours of deep, restorative sleep,’ and that’s just not the reality of it. You can pop pills all day, you’re not going to have restorative sleep. It just doesn’t work like that. It’s something that comes when your body, your mind, your spirit, your relationships, all of those components of rest feel safe, they feel rested. So, then it’s like your whole self is able to completely go into the truly helpless state of deep, restorative sleep.” (17:32 | Saundra Dalton-Smith)<strong> </strong></li><li>“Fifty years ago…we trained our brains for memorization, concentration and focus, whereas now we train our brains to multitask.” (21:08 | Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith)</li></ul><br /></p><strong>Links</strong></p><strong>Connect with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith:</strong></p><a href="https://www.drdaltonsmith.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.drdaltonsmith.com/ </a></p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drdaltonsmith" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/drdaltonsmith </a></p><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdaltonsmith/" rel="nofollow">https://www.linkedin.com/in/drdaltonsmith/ </a></p><br /></p><a href="https://restquiz.com/" rel="nofollow">https://restquiz.com/</a></p><br /></p><strong>Connect with Cait:</strong></p>Initial Call with Cait: <a href="http://bit.ly/callcait" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callcait</a></p>Initial Call with Sarah: <a href="http://bit.ly/callsarahv" rel="nofollow">bit.ly/callsarahv</a></p><br /></p>Burnout doesn’t have to be your story. Apply to UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start your journey toward lasting recovery. Spots are limited—<a href="https://bit.ly/unfryapply" rel="nofollow">apply now!</a> https://bit.ly/unfryapply</p><br /></p><a href="http://hivecast.fm/" rel="nofollow">Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm</a></p>

00:48:25