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How to Think Better for Success

Are you ready to unleash the power of your own mind and turn those dreams into reality? This episode is all about learning how to think better—simple, down-to-earth strategies to shift your thoughts toward success. Through a mix of storytelling and practical tools, I’ll share personal insights and experiences that have helped me along my journey. Together, we’ll dive into the art of *intentional thinking* and explore ways to create your own “puzzle book” to spark creativity and keep your mind focused.

You’ll discover how dedicating even a little time each day to clear, intentional thinking can bring clarity, solve problems, and unlock fresh ideas. Writing, as you’ll find, isn’t just about putting words on paper; it’s a way to expand your thinking and gain new perspectives. We’ll also tackle some classic excuses we all have—“I don’t have time!”—and explore why time isn’t the barrier we think it is.

Here’s what’s inside this episode:

The Power of Intentional Thinking** – How setting a clear direction for your thoughts can lead to real breakthroughs.

Creating a Puzzle Book** – A tool to help organize ideas, connect dots, and keep those creative juices flowing.

Overcoming Excuses** – The “no time” myth, busted. I’ll show you simple ways to make time for your own thinking sessions.

Building a Thinking Habit** – Practical ways to make regular thinking a part of your life.

What You'll Take Away:

Clarity and Focus** – Get a handle on what’s urgent vs. what’s important, so you can move forward meaningfully.

Confidence and Calm** – Experience that peace of mind that comes from having a clear direction.

Inspiration to Act** – Feel ready to tackle new challenges and inspire others along the way.

*Are you ready to think better?* Jump in and start your journey now. And hey, let’s spread some good vibes—share this episode and let’s create a wave of positive change.

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Shine brightly,

Paul

Shine brightly

Paul

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Hey, how to think better for success. Who am I to tell you? But I've got a couple of things, just got a couple of things that I know that if you did them, you would create success for your life and those dreams and goals would become your reality. And it all starts with stories, because we love a story. I got two or three of those. So come and dive in with me and learn. Or just sample a few ways of thinking better.

How to think better for success. Thought about this and I made loads of notes. And then looking at my notes again, I thought, who the nearly swore. Who am I to tell people how to think better? Now I do think I've got some things to share and it's not the only way, but I do think I'm on the right track. If anyone's listening to Jordan Peterson, I really think he's got it when he thinks writing is thinking. Because if you think about it, if you didn't think when you wrote, you just have a mass of lines everywhere and that'd be crazy. And I know you're thinking now, oh, shit, he's talking about writing it down again. Well, bit. Bit more than that. A bit more than that. I want to tell you a couple of stories. Maybe three. Maybe three sort of little stories. They're not much, but they're a little bit, you see, not. Well, a few years ago, A few years ago, my eldest son came to me and said, hey, dad, do you want to go away for a couple of days? I want to hire a barn, one of those converted barns. Not a barn with. With animals in, you know, but a converted barn for a couple of days. So we could just think. You think in one end of the barn, I'll think in the other end of the barn and we'll have lunch and then you'll think again and then we'll go out for dinner, and, then maybe one afternoon we'll just have a little ride around and things like that, see the countryside. But we'll. It'll be nice to be together, but also nice to get into a thinking mode, to plan. And I thought, that's a hell of an idea. Because you see, before I used to prattle on about, about sort of thinking and setting intentions, but it didn't really do anything. But going there was really setting intention. As soon as you walked through the door, you knew what you're going to do. We had a great time, did lots of thinking, still got me in my books, my notes I made, and so did he. And it was lovely to be with one of my sons just for a couple of days by ourselves. Awesome. And in my, My other life, when I used to be in, like a business type thing, and my partner, Mike, and he would often say to me, hey, Paul, we got this thing happening. It's like an issue. We've got a problem. Go away for a little while and think of how you think we could tackle it. Now, I'm an options man. I love options. And I would do, option one, option two, option C, D, four, five, whatever. And I'd come back to him with these lovely options. I'd really spend a lot of time thinking of the, different things, mitigations and all that stuff. I was following all different processes, and it really worked well. So I used to go away quietly by myself and do it. And then I'd go through with Paul. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Just before we go. Too bad. We. Which one? Well, I like to go through it with you. No, no, just tell me which one. Because you've done a lot of thought on this. You know the answer. You done a lot of thinking. So I came up with, well, I think it's this one. So we'll do it then, because we're going to use your plan, and if there's something better comes along and we find that we can do it even better, we'll just change course, we'll be flexible. And that's exactly what I liked. And I think that type of thinking with options and mitigations got me into, when I started into this, getting deeper into personal development and trying to solve my own issues. Because as much as I do all this work and I do hypnotherapy and I work with clients, you know, we all have issues, we all have stuff. you know, if you want to get better at life, you want to enjoy life, create a better life for yourself, have dreams and goals, you know, this podcast was just a little idea at one time, then it became something into reality, but came through this like a thought process that I did. And I think with these type of things, I developed this thing I call my puzzle book because I used to have a lot of journaling and thinking in journaling, but I wanted something more specific. And what is a puzzle book? Well, a puzzle book to me is a book with plain paper in it. Plain sheets of paper. That's all. I don't like lines because they. They restrict Me, my lines restrict me. M dots are quite good sometimes but I really prefer plain sheet. A4 size if I can get it slightly, maybe a little bit smaller. But when I open it out I've got a nice big double sheet type thing. Anyway, enough about the puzzle book because you can buy them anywhere because it's literally just a book with pieces of paper. But for me when I sit down with that, it in itself and of itself, I love that thing. It fires off my intention when I sit down. It's like triggering my unconscious mind. Thinking is anchored to the puzzle book and because of that I changed my state. I'm sure I changed my state. Love my mind maps in there. But they just things seem to flow not always straight away but it allows me to be open, open to ideas sometimes strange and weird thoughts, creative thoughts that just might work. And I've done a little podcast on spending a few moments, a day or a week just doing the most weirdest thoughts you could have about what you want in life. Not just weird thoughts because that would be weird. And writing those suckers down. And that's the whole point about this puzzle book. You write them down when you just spend time. And I know I made a note that the previous longer podcast about thinking about your hero, becoming your hero.

Cloughie says most of his ideas come from either his puzzle book or journal

The best version of yourself getting more something you can get hold of, something you can see more clearly. That came from just someone mentioning something than me going into the puzzle book and it just exploded into thoughts and I got more clear. So if you look at be your superhero or be your hero, something like that, it's only a couple of podcast episodes back that came from that. But when I thought about it, virtually every, everything I've talked about seems to come from either in my puzzle book or my journal. And what are they? They're all sitting down thinking and writing. Writing is thinking and it's a wonderful habit to get into. And as I said, a lot of my writing can be just in the form of a mind map which explodes in my mind sometimes giving me all the different options, different thoughts that I can develop them. And I say it just allows me to see options taking time. But I know what you're going to say, well, not you personally because I know you're in there, in here for the, for the long haul. But there's, there'll be some who will say, oh, Cloughie, I haven't got enough time. I haven't got enough time to sit down and think. And that's Bollocks. It really is. It's a load of old balls. That's just a petty, flimsy excuse. It's for wimps. It is, it's an excuse. People think, I think they haven't got time. And you see if you believe that and you haven't got time to sit down and think about things, what happens? And I made two or three notes about this. You know, they just react. They react there and then. There's no thought at all. React without thought. There's no plan. There's no plan of any kind. In fact, it's just a reaction, isn't it? Just a reaction with no real intention. And what tends to happen is they might get lucky. They might get lucky and come up with something, but they end up doing something. The first thing that comes to mind, a knee jerk reaction and that goes wrong. And then they find something else and that goes wrong. Then they get overwhelmed and then they. It's just such a waste of fucking time. And it could have been stopped so easily if they'd have stopped and thought, did a little bit of thinking first. And this thing about time. We waste time every bloody way, don't we? Have a look, have a look of how much you do on the typical things. Social media, maybe gossiping, maybe just actually just bonky stuff walking around. I even started putting in my diary. Instead of planning, along with planning the things I wanted to do in the day, I actually wrote down what I actually did. And as soon as I started writing down what I did, it made me think of what I'm going to do next. And I started to get more things done just by looking at it going, no, I don't want to keep writing down. I spent 15, 20 minutes looking at bloody social media. I want to be writing down that I'm making changes, doing stuff. Even if it was sitting down thinking 15 minutes. And what else happens when people don't think? Well, they end up just doing the urgent things that keeps things giving the impression that they're busy. Oh, I'm so busy. I'm so busy now. You're fooling yourself if that's the case because you're doing those urgent things, you're not doing the important things, you're just doing stuff. And there's that knee jerk reaction again. Does this make sense? maybe, I'm talking about me time ago. Hopefully I didn't do a lot of this, but I'd seen it. I see it so much, people just doing, you know, these urgent things. Flitting and flopping to each different thing and not making any bloody difference in the world. Certainly not making no difference to their life and creating more problems. I see a lot of this when I deal with clients because they come in, certainly when they come from business and I'm doing my coaching course, maybe overwhelm, because there's so much going on. And if they just resolved one thing from a place of clarity, the world would change. And it does change when we get there.

Putting 10 minutes aside to think about a particular subject can make life better

So how long. Here's a question to you. How long does thinking actually take? I got you thinking now. How long did that take? I didn't. I didn't plan that. That just came out that way. But thinking can be as much as five minutes, where you just stop and, pause and you think to yourself, what am I going to do next? Is this going to make my life better or worse? What a wonderful question. Because then you can go, actually, I need to stop and think maybe a little bit deeper about this because I don't know, maybe you don't know the answer. I don't know if it's gonna make. It seems to think I'm gonna make my life better. But on the other hand, oh, but least that stopping and pausing has got you to think of all. What would make my m. Life better? If this is gonna be it, how can I do it? Lovely questions again, but you're writing these things down. Because if you just sit there and think about it, great start. But then someone goes, hey, did you want a coffee or did you want this? Oh, yeah, that's great. How you been? And it's all gone. Those thoughts are gone, and you're back to reacting, doing the urgent stuff. Now. You could actually just put 10 minutes aside, allowing yourself to be open with the intention of thinking about a particular subject. So you got that first one is, something happens. I just stopped before you react. Have a little field book in your pocket or something like that, or just a piece of paper, scrap of paper, just notes. But ten minutes to think about something more specific. So you're getting close to that puzzly book type thing, because that's the next one. I think sometimes it's. I love. Let's Talk about Me. I. I love sitting there for about 30 minutes with a puzzle book. And it's not every day. I don't do it every day. Do it at least once a week. I think, on things I find that are important to me. They haven't got urgent yet, but they are important. And I might sit down for 30 minutes might be less, but the mere fact I get that puzzle book out again and says it fires my unconscious mind because I have an intention. And you see, when you think about that 30 minutes, that's nothing compared to that bloody time that you waste on that social media, on gossip, on just simply doom scrolling all that stuff. And the thing is when you're not wasting that time and you're doing, it's just an investment in you and it's such a small investment that has such a high return, the return on your investment, the RII return on investment, I think that's what it was in business, is so high that you can't help but being more successful. And with that success comes, I want to say happiness, but it comes with maybe a calmness, maybe it comes with a little bit of peace of mind, maybe it comes with awareness, maybe it comes with conviction, maybe it comes with an expectation because you know what you're doing, you get from that, you get confidence. And when you do this, and here's a kicker, your unconscious mind can start to think, hey, this is a safer way to be because we are creating a world, a life for ourselves with less stress. We're dealing with stress before it becomes stressful, we're dealing with anxiety before it become anxious. We're planning our success, you and I are then planning our, our success and mitigating, I'm going to say failure, but mitigating where our results aren't what we want or what, what may come and blindside us or may come along. We can mitigate that as best we can. And therefore again we get more confident because we know what we're intending to happen and we know how we can, you know, mitigate things that aren't quite, may happen the other way. And again we've got it covered. And your unconscious mind goes, this is a great place to be. And it only took 30 minutes and we weren't going down the route of doom scrolling gossiping. That's great to have, great to communicate. But now think when you've got yourself in control as much as control is, but when you feel great about yourself and you feel like you've got purpose and you feel like you've got everything in hand, those conversations you have with other people are so, so much more richer.

So I've got a challenge for you. Get yourself a bloody puzzle book. Now am I going to get those excuses? I don't know

So I've got a challenge for you. Get yourself a bloody puzzle book. Now am I going to get those excuses? I don't know where to get one. you talk about a field book. What's a field, A Field book is just a small, little thin book. Have a look on places like Amazon or ebay or whatever, they're cheap. Or you can get a larger book and call it a puzzle book. How much are they then? They're peanuts. A few dollars, few pounds. When I say a few. One, two or three. You don't have to go mad because it's a plain book or, you know, I nearly swore. But just get a piece of paper, you know, print some out the copy machine, anything, piece of paper. Get a pen, pencil, whatever you bloody like. And I want you in your diary. Oh, I haven't got a diary. Well, get a bloody diary page, a day diary, that's all you need. I have one with times on it, so I can really block it out. But I want you to block out some five minutes and some 10 minutes for thinking time daily, every day, at least a, ah, five minute, or I would suggest a ten minute, because once you get into it, you'll want to spend longer than five minutes. But 10 minutes is something where you go, well, I can put 10 minutes aside because I'm going to have my cup of coffee, I want to just sit down the first thing in the morning. Sometime in the day, lunchtime, my break time, anytime on my commute, unless you're driving, of course. And, block it in your bloody diary. So before you start the week, you know roughly what you're going to be doing most days. So block it down. You can move them around a little bit, but once they're blocked in, you have to do it. And, block in 1:30 minutes time for yourself. Time to create success, time to think. Time to really get deeper into a specific issue, a specific thing, a project that you want to just solve, resolve, get better at, maybe learn it. Because they don't have to be all issues, do they? Things that you might want to learn. So how can I learn this? And when you sit down and think that's what one of the questions just jumped in. How can, what do I need to learn? You ask yourself questions. You write those questions down. What do I really want? Is it going to make my life better or worse? How can I make it better? What do I know already? What do I need to know more of all these wonderful questions? And questions go on forever. There are so many people now who have questions that are, so brilliant. Tim Ferriss has lots of questions and I love his questions and they're very closely aligned to the type of things that I would ask myself and what we could do. Because I Always threatened to write a book about just the questions you ask yourself, but I thought that was a bit pretentious. But we could do another podcast episode on the type of things you could do in that 30, minute session. The type of questions you could ask that would get your unconscious mind going in a direction to find the answers. Because it's. And again, it's because you write these down, your unconscious mind goes and finds the answers. And the beauty of this, you sit down for 30 minutes, you might not get everything done that you wanted to. They're open questions. You haven't maybe found the answer yet. You've thought of some options, but you're not quite sure. One of the old Cloughie guarantees is you'll go away. You'll close the book, you'll go away and you'll come back suddenly go, ah. And you'll have that aha, moment, where's my book? I must make that note down. And you can't find that, so you put it in a little piece of paper or your field book, and then you come back to your thinking book in that. And it. Just because it's written down, you can always go back to it. And it gets richer and it gets more inspiring, more intuitive and it gets you to start to dream and think without you really sitting down hard because you just go, ah, becomes a habit that, that ideas muscle starts to really get strong. You begin to resolve and solve what? whatever you need to solve and resolve. I hope a lot of this, I hope this has made sense because, to be honest, I try, I always try to think of the meta side of all of this. What am I trying to do? And I'm really just. It's a reminder that, to me anyway, that there's so much more that you can find and it's all in you and there's so much more of you to find and to keep it, put it on paper. And I think it just makes so much sense. I love you to think, well, that makes sense. I'm going to do that. Take up my bloody challenge. Take up my challenge and find out. You see, I believe this is where your dreams are formed. And then they're made and then you plan them and then you begin to schedule. We've got that bloody diary again, haven't we? And then we start scheduling for stuff and then we review the week and we review our plans and without that puzzle book, without that diary, without you consciously committing to this, your life might just say the same. And I don't Want that for you. I want your life to get so rich. Rich in every way, shape or form. So colorful, so exciting, so passionate with wonderful emotions. And I know you might thinking, yeah, you're bigging this one up, Cloughie. I don't think I am. I really don't think I am. It comes from these simple little things. In simplicity, there's fucking genius. And this is so simple. Take up my challenge.

Go on, I dare you. Go away and have a think about thinking

Go on, I dare you. And then when you do, let me know how you got on. Always love your feedback. Hey, your feedback might be claphy. You're not swearing enough. Sorry, I have started swearing a bit more in here. but that's because I'm getting more passionate about some of the stuff I'm talking about now, I think. And it's me, but hopefully that's okay. But do email me feedback@personaldevelopment unplugged.com if there's any of those questions. Well, I'm sitting down, but I'm getting a bit stuck. Let me know what you're getting stuck on. I'll find something that will take that unstuckiness, away or that stuck in us away. I promise I will. I can. That's what I do. Please do that. And maybe get somebody else on the challenge as well by sharing this episode. Let them know it's just a thinking thing. And it is only thinking better because that's what you do. You think. So we might as well use that skill of thinking and get it better. Get that muscle really pumping. And when you do that, people will see you and they'll go, shit, look at them. Look at them go. I can do that too. You inspire people and you'll never know how far the ripples of that change go. You really won't. But you know, you're creating that change in you and other people. What a wonderful thing to do. All because you listened to Cloughie and you did that seven day challenge and you continued listening and you continue to subscribe. Because if you haven't subscribed, why the not, please press that subscribe button. But the feedback is great. I'd much more prefer, much more prefer the feedback, but I'd like to subscribe too. Okay. Anyway, that's all there is. Go away and have a think about thinking and then take up the challenge. I dare you, dare you to create your dreams and the life that you really want.

Personal development unplugged. It's time to fly on your own

Time to fly. Bye. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul . It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend.

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Who'll Remember You No One!

The sad fact is a few years after we've left this mortal life very few will remember us and in a couple of generations most will not know who you were and what you did.

So in this 5-minute muse let's get positive and make the most of our lives for us and those around us NOW. If you're going to create a legacy create it in the present.

This may be a short episode but I do believe it carries an important message.

No more excuses - Let's live

Please share so others can be reminded

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and the video link to this this recording: https://youtu.be/fNJK7WMp-xw

Shine brightly

Paul

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Be Your Own Hero – A Journey to Self-Discovery Unplugging Personal Development, Finding the Real You

Hey there, Cloughie here! In today’s episode of *Personal Development Unplugged*, we’re breaking free from the usual self-improvement treadmill to explore something more authentic. Have you ever felt lost in the quest to become "the best version of yourself"? I have. That’s why I’m here to propose a new direction: instead of chasing perfection, let’s learn to **be our own hero**.

The Gym Epiphany

In a rare quiet moment at the gym, I had a realization that hit me like a ton of bricks. Being your own hero isn’t about comparison or constant improvement; it’s about identifying and embodying the unique qualities that *truly matter* to you. So, grab a pen and your "puzzle book" because we’re diving deep into this together.

Questions to Kickstart Your Journey

We’re getting hands-on with some powerful questions to help you craft your personal hero. Here’s what to ask yourself:

- What does my hero stand for? - What values do they hold, and what kind of life do they live? - How do they show up in service to others? - What dreams fuel their journey?

aren’t just “feel-good” questions; they’re tools to uncover what really drives you and align with your own unique potential.

This Episode is for YOU if:

- You’re tired of feeling pressured to be the “best” version of yourself - You want to reconnect with a sense of purpose that feels real - You’re ready to visualize and live out the values that make you feel most alive

Your Journey Starts Here

By the end of our time together, I hope you’ll walk away with a clearer picture of your hero and a renewed commitment to live in alignment with that vision—one small, powerful step at a time.

Listen, Share, Shine

So if this episode inspires you, please share it. Let’s create a ripple of people who are ready to live with purpose and shine brightly as their own heroes.

Catch the episode at:https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/417-how-to-be-a-hero/

Shine brightly,

Paul Clough

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Hey, in all these, bits of self development, self improvement and going to make the best version of yourself and all that. Constant never end improvement. My question is towards what and how and who? So I've delved into that in a special way. I think you find it interesting

Hey, friend, I need your help. I need your help because. Are you puzzled as I am? Because I'm puzzled and I'm puzzled about bloody personal development, which is quite strange because I've been in that type of genre for bloody years. You know, helping people with hypnotherapy, hypnosis, timeline therapy, nlp. All about developing ourselves and to what end. So what is the direction of personal development? It's a lovely term, personal development, self development. But what we get these things. There's a lovely thing called Can I. Constant and, never ending improvement. Again, great thing. The actual concept of constant and never ending improvement is good, but to me it's slightly overwhelming. everyday constant, never ending improvement. Something I'd like to do, but I'm m confused. And then there's that one thing. Can we do 1% better each time we do it or 1% every day? Which is a bit like constant and never ending improvement, but you know, sounds good because they do. They're all like these wonderful memes. And I hate memes, by the way. Well, most of them. It just sounds good, you know, striving to be better. sounds m good too, doesn't it? Yeah. I'm in personal development because I want to be. I want to be better. What a generalization that is. I just want to be better, you see. Towards what? What we. Where are we heading in our personal development M why are we doing this? You know, where are we? What is the target? what is the aim? Towards what? Constant never ending improvement. Towards what? 1% more towards what? Striving to be better towards what? And that's why I'm getting confused. And I shouldn't be. I shouldn't be because this is part of my life sharing these type of things. And so this is why I'm opening up to you. Because I'm a little bit lost. Well, I was. I think. I think I was lost. You see, this thing just puzzled me, you know, what is the best version of ourselves? Because that's what I've been talking about as well. The aim is to become the best version of ourselves. But again, how general is that? The best version. What does it mean? What do you think of when you do that? I get a very fuzzy picture of myself sometimes. And it's the same bloody picture. Sometimes it's over and over again. Bit like the act of gratitude, you know, you can do it really well, but sometimes it's just by rote, isn't it? Same things. And when I think of that best version of myself, or a little while ago, it didn't inspire me anymore. And that was sad because this is my life. It's your life, isn't it? Are you confused? But I want you to help me. Well, help me as I just go through this. You see, a little while ago, not too long ago, I had an aha, moment again. I was in the bloody gym then. I was. It always seems to happen when I'm on that bloody walking machine. So I'm gonna go in there more often, I think. There I was walking away and I was listening to a podcast which included David Goggins. I love David Goggins. He's a bit way out there, but inspirational. And he swears a lot, which is, no mad, no bad thing, I don't think, anyway. And to his credit, I think, you know, don't be like me, don't be like me if you want, be inspired to think a little bit like me. But he did inspire me to think because he said this one. Well, how many? One, two, three, four words. Four words. And it was lost in a sentence because they carried on talking, but to me, suddenly, boom, it was there. Four words. Dramatic pause. What were those four?

Be your own hero is what I'm looking for in life

I'll tell you what those four words were. Be your own hero. I thought, fuck, yeah, that. That's what I'm looking for, be my own hero. Because I can. Well, it gives me something to work on, to flesh out, doesn't it? And what a way to live. Striving to be your own hero.

Imagine if you were living your life as your own hero

And before we go into that, just imagine, just for a moment, without visualizing anything at all, just think if you were living your life as your own hero, what'd it feel like? And to me, it gave me such a buzz. If I could only live like my own hero, that would be it. Now I've got something to strive for, because that is the best version of myself. That is what I would try to improve every day. Constant, never end improvement. To be that hero. If I only improve 1% a day to become my own hero, it would be there. If I just strived to be closer, not better, but to be closer to that version of My own hero. What a way to live. That's what I think. To me anyway. What do you think? Take a moment now just to think. If I was to be my own hero, living my life. Wow. Because that would be it, wouldn't it? But let's dive a little bit deeper. well, I did, you see. I did. I did with the help of my son's mastermind group because I asked them to help me to contribute to flesh it out, as it were. Now let's see if we can might even put this into a process. Later on I might put it into a hypnosis track, See where we go with that. But first of all, let's just think. And I got my puzzle book out for this by the way. Think about it. That's my puzzle book. I do, I can, I can sell the puzzle books to you. In fact, they are available in every good bookshop because they're just a plain, plain paper. You can get them lined, you can get them with little dots on what look like squares. But I love plain paper because it gives me the freedom. Or you can have, it's a piece of paper, it doesn't matter. But I use my puzzle book. And in the middle of my puzzle book, right in the middle, I open the, open up two pages so I've got the whole like all of it. And in the middle I put be your own hero. I thought, yeah, that's pretty good. But then I put after it, aspire to be your own hero. Cloughie. And I drew a little smiley face with a, with a halo over the top. I don't know why it made me laugh, but I, I started asking myself questions to flesh this out. And I want you to think if you could, which maybe helped me inspire myself to flesh it out, ask these questions. And I started to get some answers and answer the questions and I maybe just fill in some of the things I got which may get you consciously and unconsciously, because I want your unconscious mind to think about this. Because if you think about it unconsciously, if you're living your life as your superhero, you are living the best life you are the healthiest you have, or you're dealing with any stress and problems you're dealing with them. Therefore you're in the safest possible world of your own, which is where your unconscious you, the unconscious mind want them to be. Isn't it talking to your best friend now. So anyway, I'll come back to that. Yeah.

What are your highest values? What would your superhero stand for

So what is your best. So what would your hero Stand for what is. Stand for who? What would they stand for? Your best hero. You see, I wrote down fairness. if there is such a thing as fairness in an unfair world, because the world is unfair. And that's another. Another topic. But fairness, as best they could. But that was the first thing that came to mind, just to be fair, treating people with fairness. That's what my superhero would do. Superhero now, by the way. And what wouldn't your hero stand for? What wouldn't they accept? And for me, it jumped out and I was a bit harsh because I said, liars. I won't accept lies. People who don't tell the truth. My superhero wouldn't accept selfishness or rudeness or any of that. Just not acceptable. And that just got me to think, that's a. There's some stuff in there. Maybe I'll flesh that out again. But maybe you could think, what would your superhero not. Not accept? And what would they stand for? Firm. You, see in there, there's a set of values in there. So what is. Or what are is better word, the values of your superhero, the ones you despire to be. You see, I thought of mine. What are my highest values? And I've had these since I found them, basically when I did, a values exercise way, way, way back into a distant age. And it was always trusted honesty. And I wrote those down and ticked them again because I can't think of anything higher for me. So my hero, my superheroes, would have in his heart, trust and honesty. And then there was a side. Listening before talking. I don't know where that came from. That just slipped in. And, I know I have been thinking about that for a long time. In fact, there's. I think I've either have done or will do an episode on that. How to be heard. That's what it's called, how to be heard. In fact, I think that was the last one bit short because it muddled up in episodes in my head. But hey, listening before talking.

What would your superhero, your hero, believe in

Now, what would your superhero, your hero, believe in? What would their beliefs be? And I thought about this, and again, what I did was I wrote these questions down and then I came back to them because I wanted them to, I hoped, come from not my. Just my conscious mind, but from my unconscious mind and let my conscious mind, like, decipher what I was thinking inside. And the same type of beliefs that I try to have as best I can, I know they're right. Sometimes they get a little bit. They're bent or pushed against, but I'VE got this. I'm okay now. They're so subtle to me. They just give me that inner strength. I'm okay. And then I thought, well, that's fine, but is there anything else below that? And the belief I got was everyone can change if they want to. That just means leaving the door open, doesn't it? And I thought, well, that's again, come from all my work with therapy. People want to change. We can find a way because I've got this. And it just made sense to me. But what beliefs would your hero have? What would they have at their core along with those values? Because values and beliefs at identity level are, ah, so powerful. They're what set our direction. I think they're what, you know, inspire us, even though we don't know. Sometimes they could say below the surface. But this is like bringing them out into our conscious awareness. And we can go, yeah, yeah. And, I thought, keep going with this. Who does my hero look up to? Who does your hero look up to? And, I didn't have a person in mind. Nothing came up. But then I thought, well, anyone showing kindness, because that leaves it so open to looking for people who show kindness. And again, looking for anyone who is showing up to stand up and be prepared to stand up for what's right. And that's a little bit like the very beginning, isn't it? What would your hero stand for? And, not accept? And then this one that hit me a little bit, little bit in me. Well, a lot of it is in me. It's all me, isn't it? It's all about me. But this is all about you too. But the one thing that came along and then just like, knocked me between the eyes was someone who can say sorry when it's needed, when it's proper, when it's, when it's, when it's the right thing to do. Because I know I don't, I don't do that, don't do it always. I have to force myself sometimes. And I don't know why. And that's something I'll have to be working on. Maybe that's too much information, you know. And, I got a lot of stuff. I got a lot of stuff. Everyone's got stuff. I got good stuff to share and I got some stuff inside still to work on. Everyone's got stuff to work on. But again, if my superhero, and if I could aspire to be that, then I will be saying sorry if I need to, if it's needed. Because it can't be right all the time. Oh, we always want to make a mistake about loads, isn't it? and then I thought of this. What dreams does my hero have? Have a think now. What? What do you think? Your hero? If you could aspire to be that person, what dreams would they have? Because you sometimes think, well, maybe that hero would have everything. But no, they still have dreams. But, wow, what dreams would they be? Because they're coming from a foundation of absolute wonder. I haven't got an answer for this yet because I'm still dreaming to be my hero, and I find it hard to get hold of that. But they'll come. It'll come. I'll come back to this puzzle book. Look out, look at this. And suddenly I'll know I'll get the answer, because that's the whole. This is an aside now. this is a great thing about having things like a puzzle book and writing that sucker down. Because I did at least two to three efforts on this. First of all, I just wrote out one or two questions with that central theme, and then I began to flesh it out. Then I got a few more questions, and I know I'll flesh it out even more because it's a work in progress, isn't it? You know, I'm a work in progress. You're a bloody work in progress. We're all nearly swore. We're all work in progress, aren't we? I did swear so. Because it felt good.

How does your superhero provide service? What is selfless service

But maybe you want to think about that. What are your dreams? And are they the dreams that your superhero still, has? And then I thought, well, I got this lovely person now. My hero, the one I strive and aspire to be. How does my hero provide service? Because I do believe we. We should be giving. And I don't like the word should, but, you know, everyone should give service to somebody, to something. Doesn't be somebody. Could be something. Could be the land, could be. Could be animals, could be anything at all. But what is selfless service? You know, it's that one where you don't expect any repayment whatsoever. It's for free with my compliments, no charge. You know, you're welcome. That's the only thing I want to be able to say, you're welcome, and do it. I made this note again. It's sopy. And I even wrote sopy in brackets with love and a smile. That's how my hero provides service. I'm not sure what. What it would be in what. What genre, what type of thing, but I just know that my Superhero would be looking to do and give your welcome with love and a smile. And to do that I, made a note. Mastering becoming a master of emotions, becoming a master of actions, becoming master of beliefs, and becoming a master of skills. Because to give selfless service, you're giving your skills. So you need to be able to access all those skills and practice accessing those skills and practicing using those skills. Because just having them is no fucking good at all. If you know a lot but don't use it, what's the point of knowing it? That's just ego driven, isn't it? But if you can do what you know and know what you do and get and put it into the form of selfless service where you're welcome, he said with love and a smile, that's my hero. That's what I want to strive to be. And then, I put, how does a hero, my hero behave in the world? Because we have values, we have beliefs, we have skills. But it also ends up as a behavior, doesn't it? Everything is a behavior. And I've got. It's quite strange with integrity. But again, what does integrity mean? I got an idea, obviously, but then I wrote softly with inner pride and in capital letters, the last bit with the heart of a warrior and the warriors written in capital letters uppercase. Because if you can have inner pride, act and behave like a warrior inside with integrity and with everything else I've put together, I thought I've got the makings. I've got a recipe of a real hero that I can strive to be because it inspires me. And I wonder what yours does. How would your hero behave in the world? Here's the thing that I know that you see all these things and the more I'm going to flesh it out and the more you're going to flesh it out are, inside you anyway. Already you have all of these wonderful skills, traits, whatever you want to call it, they're in there because they would if you, you couldn't be able to bring them out on paper to think about them if they weren't in there somewhere. So you have all of these things. It's a matter of accessing them m and bringing them out in full to keep practicing, to keep striving to get that constant and never improvement of your, of everything you've got which starts inside with what you've got now and then improving it. One percent maybe. So there you go. I don't know if any of that made sense.

Paul: I hope this podcast inspires you to think of your superhero

This is a ramble I know it's a heartfelt ramble, by the way, because this is really important to me and I hope, one of my hopes is that I can inspire you to think of your hero, because it's what you deserve. It's what you deserve to live or how to live as your hero. But we need to have that direction. We need to have the thought about what it is to be specific, not just constant and never ending improvement. Now I know what I want. I want to constantly be improving. For now, I, know what, I'm 1% every day bringing this to mind. So I need some, something to bring it to mind every day, which is where we get visualizations and things like. But I can now visualize my superhero, my hero, me, the person I strive to be. That is the best version of me. And it gets better. The more I work on it, the better it'll be, the clearer it'll be. And when I look back, I'll be going, okay, Cloughie, we're doing it. Maybe not all of it. It won't be all of it because it's always more. Whatever you think you are, you're always more than that too. So you're closer. Maybe that's a bit weird language, but you are. So I hope you know I have inspired you just if nothing else to think about it. Please get a puzzle book, please get a piece of paper, pen, pencil, colored crayons, whatever, and maybe just right in the middle, my hero. Maybe be your hero. What is my hero? Whatever it is, whatever is right for you. And just with lines going away from the sender. Just begin to maybe think about what are the values, what are the beliefs, what will your hero stand for? Not accept, what type of service, what do they dream of, how do they behave, who do they look up to, all that stuff. I think I will be doing a hypnosis track on that just to help you flesh it out in your conscious and unconscious mind. Let's get them both going. So it becomes an unconscious target to the aim in mind to be that best version of yourself. A best version that we can now grasp, hold, feel, as it were. Because when you've. Even if you just took my hero, and I know it's not you, but if you took the elements that resonate within you and add your little bits, you could feel it. Can't you begin to feel what it would feel like? And it's that feeling of the wish fulfilled once we start working or working on us with that feeling first in mind, the feeling of the wish fulfilled and then be. Guess what? What would happen if we acted as if. Acted as if we were that superhero with all those wonderful traits, values, beliefs. Fuck it. We'd be there. Nearly there. Jesus. I'm sorry about all the swearing, but, I get emotional about this bloody stuff because a lot of this is just me pouring out the things I'm thinking about about me. And hopefully you can come along with me in parallel with your thoughts, your desires, your dreams, your goals. To be the very best person that enjoys life, the life you deserve. Anyway, I hope that made sense. Please, if there's anything that doesn't make sense or anything you want about that, more detail or whatever, something you didn't understand, maybe I didn't explain it right or something, you go, ah, Paul, what about this Cloughie? I thought about something. If there's anything like that, please do email me. I'd love to hear it. It'll inspire me to do more for myself and for other people too. How do you do that? Feedback at Personal Development Unplugged. dot com. And I'll be there for you. And we'll create even better lives for ourselves. Become. Get our superhero being even more. I wonder what our superheroes hero is. Oh, there's another concept. Let's go another level. So if you would email me and if you could share this episode and share the podcast, it would mean so much to me. It really would. It's a way of paying it forward. It's a way of selfless service. But it would mean, I think other people would get whatever golden nuggets I put out there, known and unknown, conscious and unconscious. I think it would be. That would be very kind. Very kind. And it's very kind of you to spend your time with me, listen to me prattle on about me and the things I'm thinking about. So have more fun than you can stand. And, find joy wherever you look.

Paul Clough advises you to leave personal development unplugged

It's time to fly, my friend. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development unplugged.

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What Are You Putting Off? Achieving NOW

A 5 minute muse that just might change the way you think.

What do you really want in your life that you are putting off - achieving?

Because we do, we are - putting off those things we want ad it's not a nice thought because we've put it off.

But if you ask this question you might just begin to start the one thing that would make the difference.

What's the QUESTION?

Well you have to listen because it's a podcast

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Shine brightly

Paul

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How To Be Heard When No-one's Listening Listen to Be Heard: Transforming Conversations & Connections

Hey, do you ever feel like you're just *not being heard*? It’s that feeling that no matter how much you try to express yourself, it just doesn’t seem to land. It’s something we all face, because, deep down, we all crave that feeling of being listened to and understood. But here’s the secret: it’s not really about how loudly we speak; it’s about how deeply we listen—starting with listening to ourselves.

In today’s episode, we’re peeling back the layers on the art of communication and discovering how you can finally be heard by others in a way that resonates. I’ll be sharing some personal insights and real-life moments that taught me just how powerful true listening can be. And we’ll be looking at some of the biggest hurdles that get in our way—like that pesky inner voice that tells us we’re not worth it, or that whispers doubt when we try to connect. But here’s the thing: *we can change that.*

Here’s what we’ll be diving into today:

1. **The Real Barrier to Being Heard: Your Own Inner Voice.** Sometimes, the biggest obstacle to being heard isn’t the person in front of us but the voice in our own head. I’ll walk you through some of the ways I’ve learned to quiet this inner chatter, and how you can start asking yourself better questions to shift your perspective.

2. **The Power of Questions in Communication.** Have you ever thought about how you phrase the questions in your mind? Not just questions to others, but the ones you ask yourself. We’ll explore how asking the right questions can instantly improve how you connect with people, making them more receptive and engaged in the conversation

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3. **How Listening Is the Key to Being Heard.** Yep, you heard it right! The art of listening can make others listen to you, too. When you practice becoming an attentive listener, it opens the door for more meaningful exchanges—and in a way, they can’t help but want to listen to you in return.

**What You’ll Walk Away With:**

- **Practical Steps for Better Communication.** I’ll give you the tools to ask yourself the right questions, so you can engage others without the strain of feeling unheard.

- **The Role of Self-Reflection and Visualization.** By pausing to reflect on what you need out of a conversation and envisioning that outcome, you’ll start noticing your words resonate more.

- **How Vulnerability and Genuine Curiosity Create Stronger Connections.** It’s amazing how, when you show a real interest in others, those walls between you start to fall, building the foundation for truly rich relationships.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have a toolkit to not only be heard but to hear others in a way that’s deeply enriching. It’s all about stepping out of your own way, letting go of those old barriers, and embracing a fresh, straightforward approach to communication.

Ready to transform the way you connect with others? Let’s dive in.

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Paul

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Do you ever feel that you're not being listened to

Do you ever feel that you're not listened to, that you're not being heard? And we all want to be heard, don't we? We all want to be listened to. Well, I've got some examples of what happens, and I've got some answers of how we can be heard, how we can be. How we can be listened, and how we can use it to become the best version of ourselves. Okay, that's of interest. Take a listen.

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his is Personal Development Unplugged, with Paul Clough. In simplicity, there is genius. In simplicity, there is genius. Just want you to know this. The answers are always hiding in plain sight. And this is for me. Well, sort of the intention of this episode is to remind me to do something, to get out of my own way. M. Maybe. And I think, well, let me. Let me do this. Let me do this. Have you heard. Have these words ever come from your lips? You just don't get it. Are you listening to me? Are you actually listening to me? What is it about it? What don't you understand? What? Why? How many times does that get said? You know, have you said it? How have you said it? I don't know. Or is it just me? It can't just be me, can it? Is this episode just about the things that. Well, maybe, you see, maybe this is all about me. This is me sharing my personal stuff all the time. Now, I've decided to try to go that way more because I think what one person experiences, so many other people do too. So if, as I go through this, maybe it'll just resonate a little deeper with you. And then when we get to the solutions, because we're always going to find solutions somewhere, maybe they'll resonate too. You see, you say that out loud. You don't get it. No, you're not. You're not listening. But then there's that bloody inner voice that we have in there where we start commenting on this. A commentary. Well, I've never. They never listen to me. Why are they never listening? Why that? Why don't they. What? Why fuck, me? No one understands me. And, why don't they. To get that. Never had that again. Or that could just be me. Maybe you don't swear. And then we get to the next bit of that. That internal voice with again, where we start to share some limiting beliefs that, we've come up with because of this. The things like, well, I must be stupid. I must be stupid. You know, no one's. You know, and it's just not worth it not worth. Not worth it. And in fact, because of that, I'm not worth it. Now, that's so general, isn't it? They're all so general. Got nothing to do with this at all, really. Because guess what? None of that is actually true, is it? Because people do listen. You're not stupid. You are worth it. So it's not true. Now, here's the problem I have, and I think it's true. When you say those sort of things to yourself, said it before, there's only one person listening to you, and that's your unconscious mind. And, by saying those things, I'm never listened to. No one understands me. I'm stupid, not worth it. It's like you're reinforcing those bloody things and your unconscious mind, your best friend, your servant, no, not a servant, likes to serve you because it's you says, oh, if that's what you really think, I'll find you some examples to make it seem even truer. And, you do, and it just perpetuates. And, this keeps going on, doesn't it? And you see, all those things are just shit questions and shit statements. Why are they shit? Well, ask yourself, how good are they working for you right now? I'll ask myself. Well, that's what I ask myself. I'm not asking you, asking me how good are they working for me. When I say things like that, even on the outside, with my outside voice or that internal voice of mine. And it's not bloody working, is it? Because, again, I'm not communicating. I'm not sharing what I know. I'm not. It's just not helping. And it gets worse, doesn't it? I talk to myself, by the way. Yeah, it gets worse because of those type of things.

How do I get others to listen to me? I've got some questions

This was getting to me because I wanted to be able to be listened to, to be heard. So I sat down and had a little think. I want to share with you just a couple, a couple of ways how I'm overcoming this so I can be heard, so I can share the things that I feel are important. And, maybe people will. Well, if nothing, if they don't understand it, they might understand me better. And I'm going to do it in reverse order. What does that mean? Well, these bonky, shitty statements and questions we're asking ourselves, you see, we ask better questions, don't we? That would be the way. Stop asking bonky questions and be more intentional. What do you really want? Because if I'm going to say I'm never listened to, that's not really going to get me anywhere, is it? If I'm telling myself I'm stupid or not worth it, it's not going to get me anywhere. What do I really want? What's my intention? Well, if my intentions to be heard, maybe just ask myself, how can I get better, at communicating? What a question. How can I say or ask things differently? Now you can think those and you go, oh, well, maybe I could, you know, think about what I'm going to say first. Maybe just, I don't know, maybe contemplate, pause, breathe, all that stuff. But there are better questions. And the thing is, I believe, and this is what I try to do now is I get my little old puzzle book out. Me piece of paper, me pen, and it doesn't take long. I just quietly write these type of questions down. And I'll muse and I'll think, how, how can I say things differently? What do I want to communicate? There was my intention for communicating these things communic. What was my intention for saying these things? And it's because I want to get a better connection with people. I, know that. And I really do want to get that connection. I do really want to share what I feel and what I think. Now once I get that on paper, I can now really get my unconscious mind as well to think. Because having written it down, it's like my internal voice. I'm looking at the words I write, everything goes inside. And my unconscious mind can actually start to think about it too. You know, what do I do? How could I be listened to? How can I be listened to? What can I do to be listened differently? Is it my posture? Is it my voice? Is it my. You know, there's things which are going on which are, doing things. How can I just say things differently? Maybe it's a different set of words. Maybe I've got to think about that other person. And I don't like the word make. But what would make others listen to me? So how could I maybe. How could I get others to listen to me? I've got the answers to that and it's a bit weird. So that's the second part. But I'm not there yet. I'm still on my questions. So how can I say things differently and still and, be understood better? And I know I'm not stupid. So how, if I was to imagine it, how would I want those things to be? Those, those events to be? How would I like to be there? Maybe that's part of the answer in number two in a moment. But maybe I could learn something by just thinking how I want it to be One thing. What got me was I said, I wrote down. Is what I'm saying worth it? No, the obvious answer to that as well. It's obviously worth it to me. But then I turn it on its head. What's it worth to the other person? And, why should they listen? And then to get motivation, it hit me a little bit, said, well, what would it be like? I'll say that bit more clearly. What would it be like if I was understood? If I was seen and what. And I was heard? What would that be like? What opportunities would it give me? How would my connection grow? That gives me motivation to start thinking again. You know, how can I say things differently? How can I say. Say things in a way that it would be valuable to that other person to share something. Maybe it's just to share it with me, but to say it in a way that got them to feel what I feel, that they would actually listen to me. And that's the thing about this thing about listening to me. We go back to the second part that I thought of, which was like, number one of they're not listening to me. The first part I've dealt with all the internal voices, ish. Just got to come up with the answers. But the start is to think about it, to visualize it. But how do I get people to listen? And I, ask myself the question, what about you, Cluffy? What about you? Do you really listen to others? The old two ears and one mouth came to mind. Do I really listen? Got me. Because I was more interested in me, what I had to say.

To really listen to somebody is to. And, uh, when I say listen,

I wasn't thinking about the other person that much, was I? I mean. And, when I say listen, and I've talked about listening before in episodes, I can't remember which ones, but there's. To really listen to somebody is to. And there's a knot in here. Not listening with half a mind of what you're going to be saying next. You're knowing what you want to say and waiting for that gap. And you effectively disregard anything they've bloody said because you haven't listened to it. You just waited for a gap in their conversation to go, but, no, but this is what it should be. Now, that's not listening, is it? You're still listening to yourself, by the way. This is not you, me. I'm still listening to myself when I do that. So it's really a matter of getting out of your way. This is one of the notes I made. Step out of your way. Because if you really want to be heard, maybe you just have to listen more clearly, more openly. So stop that talking to yourself of what you want to say and really listen. Because I thought about this, and people say. And it makes sense to me now, if you want to be heard and, listened to. Become a good listener. Not to. No, no, fuck that. Not a good listener. Become. Become a great listener. Pay attention. Pay attention with only them, that person in mind. And what happens when you do that? Well, things happen, don't they? You begin to understand that person better. You may not agree, but at least you understand where they're coming from. Maybe because of your open mind and I think even more importantly, and this is what you want for you, this is what I want for myself. They will feel understood because I want to feel understood. And if I really listen to them and they feel understood, guess what happens in that wonderful act of rapport? They will respond. They will. They, will respond by listening to you. Just like you listen to them. Oh, blimey, isn't that the thing to do? Because it's that thing when you really listen to somebody. You. You somehow get to be in their shoes. If you're really open, with no thought of your own. Just a. I want to just say to yourself, I've got time. I want to understand you. And because of that, you will then talk to them in a different way. Now, here's the thing. Just a quick one. Just come to my mind. Listen to yourself sometimes. Get out of your way. Just listen to yourself, and maybe you'll understand yourself better. You'll talk to yourself better. You'll ask better questions. Oh, there we go. Get those questions again. And when you really listen to yourself better, who are you listening to? Your conscious mind and your unconscious mind. You know, you're maybe thinking about the better questions you can ask yourself now. Because you know what your intention is, what you want. When you listen to yourself. Maybe it's that personal issue that you're going through, and you need to listen to yourself openly, not have that one thing in mind. But no, I want to listen to myself. Set myself some good questions so I can find some bloody great answers. And then I can try them on. Try them on either with visualization, but when you visualize, try, on to see what it feels like. So see what you'll see, hear what you'll hear. And feel the bloody feelings. And if it feels good, you go, this m. Is something I can work on. And then maybe you'll share it with somebody and maybe when they talk or they share themselves with you, you'll listen better and you'll learn more. It's all about learning, isn't it? And then acting upon those learnings. And, when we do that, isn't it a wonderful thing to give time to people just to listen? And maybe we just use it as a skill to start off with, just want to listen, get myself out the bloody way. You know, it's counterintuitive. If you really want to be heard, you got to listen better yourself. And then you become a better you. That's the thing. What I thought is important about this. It's not important or as important. No, get the other way around, Cloughie. It's important to be heard, but it's not as important to be a better you. And that better you. You know, in some ways, listening is like a selfless service. But you are going to get something in return. You're going to understand people better. You're going to maybe find things that you will help you as well, because you're really listening. And you go, ah, I never thought about that. Now that is interesting. I'll take that away with me. Maybe I don't agree with it in total, but there's something in there. Because you've listened, really listened. So that's it, really.

Sometimes it's difficult to know what you do want in a podcast

That was me talking about me, because I don't get listened to enough. It's a weird thing for someone who does a podcast, but it's always a thing. These answers are hiding in plain sight. They are for me anyway. And I just miss them sometimes. And sometimes it's just sitting down and thinking, you know, what I want, what am m I or what don't I want to start off with? Well, I don't, because sometimes it's difficult to know what you do want. So let's find out what I don't want. And then, well, if I didn't have that, what would I have instead? So I don't want to be ignored. I want to be listened to. I want to be able to share the things that are important to me. Well, to do that, I don't get a right. It's not my right to be listened to. I have to listen first. I have to give first. Because the thing is with that act of selfless service, you say it before you do it for no want of return at all. But you get dolloped on, with wonderful things in return. It's wonderful that way. And these are just little things in life. Because what's it all about, you know, when we really communicate with people, Isn't it lovely when we really understand somebody? Isn't that lovely? You know, don't, know why I keep saying, you know. But I often think, and I've had it before, maybe you have. Does this resonate with you occasionally? It's not always, but I want to do it more. When I've really listened to somebody, I've suddenly found out something really special about them that I didn't know. And I thought, wow, you surprised me. You know, they tell you what they're interested in, what their hobbies or what they've experienced in the past, you go, wow, you did that. Oh, wow. And it inspires you to do more. And all you've done is listen and ask questions of them to get more to share. You know, maybe bloody, you know, again, I'm going to cut that out. I can't remember what I was going to say now, but just to be there, to share experiences. Oh, I know. I was going to say sometimes it means just being a little bit vulnerable, you know, that lovely word vulnerability. But it's not. It's just listening, isn't it? And then knowing that when you share, they'll listen. It's nice to be heard, but maybe. And the thing is, this is last thing. When you are communicating in a way that people can understand it, can understand you, can understand your intention, what you're trying to share. The thing is, you get to know it better, too. You do. It's always said that if you learn something, if you can share it with somebody verbally, you get to know how well you understand it. And, maybe where there's some gaps that you need to look further so you're never just blindly thinking, I know it all, you actually find, yeah, there's more to learn. Yeah, well, that was a ramble, my friend. it was all about me. That's what a lot of these podcast episodes have been about. And I think they'll be about more now. Something, again I'm thinking about to remind myself and hopefully in those reminders to re. Remind. I'll remind you of the skills that you've got, too. And one of them is how to be heard. Because you've got a lot to share. I hope it made perfect sense. Well, not perfect. I hope it made sense. If it didn't, please let me know. If there's something that it sparked in you. Maybe there's something that resonated. You go, ah, I'd love to hear about it. Feedback@personaldevelopment unplugged.com that's the email address. And he comes to me. I'm the only bugger here. And let's have a little dialogue, not a monologue. And maybe we could inspire each other and then use it to create an episode that inspires many. Wow, that is selfless service, isn't it? And we get the benefit. And the thing is, we get the result too. We get more. Enjoy. Please share this. Please do share this Again, as I said, just share what you know, but tell you know, if you would just tell it where you. Where you got the words out, where you got it from.

Do share the Personal Development Unplugged podcast on social media

Got it from Cloughie. There's a guy on the podcast, personaldevelopment unplugged.com you ought to subscribe like I have. You have subscribed, haven't you? But do share it. I mean, I know it's a big ask, and I do ask this, but what would happen if you just shared it on your social media? I heard a great episode. It's a personal development army. Personal Development Unplugged podcast. Yeah, you might just learn something that's a good thing to do. It'd be like a paying it forward bit of selfless service. Maybe you'll be heard. Okay, my friend, till next time. I'm gonna go and get my puzzle book out again. Okay, have fun. More fun than you can stand and be sharing in a kind way. Bye bye now. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal Development Unplugged.

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The Secret To Speeding Up The secret is, as usual, hiding in plain sight and is counterintuitive.

And I'll start, in this 5-minute quickie episode start with a story, a metaphor and then muse.

The story is about something you would never ever do yet in real life we do it all too much with disastrous results.

Results such a:

Burnout
Overwhelm
Anxiety
Loss of Confidence
and so much more

AND.........

There is a simple solution! please press play and have a listen.

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Shine brightly

Paul

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My Real Life Metaphor To See The World Clearly Seeing the World More Clearly: A Journey of Self-Investment

Hey, welcome! Let’s talk about clarity—what does it really mean to see the world clearly? And not just in the visual sense, but through the lens of your own personal development. In this episode, I (Paul Clough) share a personal story that might just give you that ‘aha’ moment—a story that acts as a mirror for your own journey. Let’s get into how investing in yourself can lead to clearer vision and, ultimately, a more fulfilling life.

Here’s the thing: personal growth isn’t selfish. It’s not about being self-centered; it’s about being self-aware. It’s about becoming the best version of you—not just for you, but for the people around you. Imagine this: when you see the world more clearly, you’re able to show up as your true self—the real you—and that’s a gift to everyone.

So, what are we diving into today?

Self-investment. Yep, that can sound scary. We often avoid it because, let’s be real, the idea of change and improvement freaks us out. But that’s exactly why it’s so important! Getting over the fear of becoming your best self is like cleaning foggy glasses—you suddenly start to see the world differently, and things just… click.
The ripple effect. Working on yourself isn’t just about you. It’s the most generous thing you can do for the world. When you grow, you naturally inspire others to grow too. It’s contagious.
Kindness as a power tool. Think of kindness as your superpower—not just being kind to others, but being kind to yourself. When you live with kindness and push yourself toward your full potential, life takes on a whole new meaning.

What are you going to learn?

How to recognize and create real, dynamic changes in your life. It’s about small shifts that lead to massive transformations.
The importance of regular self-reflection. It’s not enough to grow once and call it a day—this is an ongoing journey, and guess what? You can tweak, adjust, and improve along the way.
Acting “as if.” Want to be more confident, more compassionate, more successful? Start acting as if you already are. You’ll be amazed at how quickly this simple mindset shift can turn into reality.

This episode is about loving yourself, living kindly, and embracing continuous growth. You might just find that as you invest in yourself, the world becomes a brighter, clearer place, not just for you, but for everyone in your life.

So, ready to see the world more clearly? Let’s make that happen!

Shine brightly,

Paul Clough

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Paul Clough talks about personal development in this podcast

Hey, I've got a simple, real life metaphor that really happened to me. And suddenly I found something else of how to see the world more clearly. Okay, please have a listen. Cause I think you'll enjoy it.

Some time ago, I decided to change the way I see the world

Hey. Some time ago, I decided to change the way that I see the world. Literally, how I see the world. You see, I had a lens. Well, both lens replacements, in my eyes. You see, before, in order to see sort of clearly, I had to wear glasses. And glasses for driving and long distance and things like that, and telly and that. But after a while, I didn't wear them so often. And, do you know what happens? Well, you just get used to the blur. It becomes normal. It becomes your normal. My normal. Well, it did became my normal. M so I decided I wanted to see a bit more clearly. I wanted to see the world clearly. So I literally had someone take out the lenses in my bloody eyes and, replace them with new ones. Yeah. And I am, not a brave little soldier, but I did it because I really wanted to see clearly. So was it expensive? Yeah, it was a little bit. It was. But it was important. So I found the money. It was important. It was important to see the world with more clarity, not just that blur where things, you know, the colors just faded into each other and the details just disappeared. Was I nervous? Yeah, I was. I told you, I'm not a brave little soldier. So was it uncomfortable? Yeah, it was a bit. It was uncomfortable. But when I think about it now, it wasn't very long. It was more uncomfortable thinking about it, I think. And then when it's done, it's gone. Did I have to do stuff? Did I have to have, like, a continuing thing? Was it just there and then? Yeah, I had to do bloody eye drops. I had to sleep with goggles on just in case I scratched myself and things like that. And did it turn out perfect? Well, not quite. Didn't turn out quite perfect. It was better. It was better. And, you see, it was only, this last week I went back because I wanted to see if I could tweak it, have one more little treatment. I had to keep working on it because I wasn't quite happy with the way I was. Was it pleasant? Well, not exactly. And then we're back to the bloody eye drops and back to the goggles. Yep, there. We're there again. So a little bit more uncomfortableness. But am I happy now? Oh yeah. Oh yeah. And when I think back, and this is what got me into this, this, this thought and this story, I invested in me, I m invested in me. And therefore, it's like a real life metaphor. And you see, I always tell my clients when they get embarrassed about working on themselves, paying for therapy, maybe they think that they should be spending their time and their money on their family not working on themselves, because that's selfish, isn't it? And I find that's the most, well, selfish thing to do, not, not to work on yourself. You see, who would the p. Who would the people that you love prefer to be around when we're talking about you? Would they prefer to be around you when you're feeling your true self? You know, when you're seeing the world more clearly. And when I say clearly in seeing, I'm talking about through the emotions and limiting beliefs and negative emotions. And those feelings, when they're gone and you're feeling good with yourself, wouldn't they prefer to be around you when you're feeling that way? Of course they would. Of course they would. But the thing is, when they're feeling good about feeling, about being around you because you feel good, what happens to you? Will you feel bloody even gooder, if that's a word, you feel even better and then they feel better. And, it's a lovely spiral of going upwards as opposed to downwards. That's the opposite, isn't it? But they just feel really good. Yeah. So, investing, you see, I, I do a lot of talking and thinking of being kinder. Talked about it quite a bit. So it's in my, it's in my mind and it's. This is about me, but I think it might resonate maybe if you just, just give it a time. Just give it a moment or two as I speak, you see, I wanted to be kinder and thinking about being kinder, using my skills to do that. Why? Why would I want to do that? Well, because I don't think I'm doing enough. I don't do it enough. I can be kind, but it's not at the forefront of my horizon, my thinking. And when I was thinking about it, I'm not happy to blindly put up with it, not living to my potential, because there is potential in being kind again. When you're kind to somebody, you feel good, they feel good. Win win. But when you feel good and you're kind, people just want more of you. I guess.

What would make the most dynamic change in you and affect everything else

So when we think about it, how kind of you, you know, are you living your life to your true potential? Are you? What might happen if you did? What might happen if you did live your life to your true potential? Now, I know you're here listening. So you're into this personal development malarkey where you want to get a little bit better in your life. Strive to be the best version of yourself. And, that's why I want to make it all about you, you see? It is all about you. You have to come first. The old aeroplane thing, you know, put on your. If the air masks come down, put them on you before you deal with somebody else, so you can deal with other people because you're in a better state. And that's what I said right at the beginning. When you're feeling good about yourself, maybe you still want to get better. Well, you will. But when you're feeling good about yourself, people get the best of you. They see the best of you. So it is all about investing in yourself, taking the time, because it does take time. Taking the effort, because it does take bloody effort, doesn't it? I know it's simple when we break it down like we do here, break down the complicated into simple steps. And it's pretty easy, those steps, because they're simple, they're easy. But it does take effort, doesn't it? Does take effort to see yourself clearly, not as you are now, but how you can be, how, you want to be. My son Joseph has a lovely saying. That's Joseph Clough. Search him on the Internet. He is massive. But he has this little saying. He says, what you want wants you. Yeah. Have a think about that. What you want wants you, because it does. And if you want the best for yourself, that's what's there for you. It wants you to be the best for yourself. The whole world, the whole multiverse universe wants you to be the best version of yourself. But again, you have to put yourself into number one. And it's not just kindness, is it? It's not, is it? It's a great place to start, I believe, but it's whatever change you want to make. To make. I love to say this, to make the most dynamic change in you and then affect everything else in that dynamic. Change. Love the word dynamic. It feels like there's motion, emotion in it, isn't it? What would make the most dynamic change in you and affect everything else? It's like saying, what is the one thing that if you change, that everything else would have to change too? Just have a think now. Just have a think. If you could. What would you change? for me, it was kindness. That was the thing on my horizon. To see clearly, to be kind, to see opportunities of kindness, to be kind. Maybe that's because I felt that was. Well, I did. It was not on, as I said, the highest part of my agenda. And I thought it should be, should be of a higher value to me. But this dynamic change, is it quick? Well, it could be. Could be. If you've got something that you really need to change and it's really, you know, bringing you down, maybe because it's anxiety, maybe there's fear, maybe there's guilt, maybe there's grief, maybe there's, oh, everything. But if it's affecting you, go and see a therapist. You know that talk about it so many times, go. from my experience, if you find a great master hypnotist who is a great master practitioner of NLP, who is a great master practitioner of timeline therapy, you will blow that out of the water so quickly. But you do have to make the effort, don't you? You do have to make the effort. And you know, I've got something. How to find or what to look for in a great, great therapist somewhere back in the ether of all these episodes. Just search, it, you'll find it. But working on yourself, because you don't have to be a graduate therapist, because we're always continually working on ourselves, aren't we? That's why you're here. So it takes time. And to work on yourself in that time, you could say, just look at the back catalogue of the episodes here. There's loads of them. And those hypnosis tracks, they're all there for you. Where'd you get them? Paulcloughonline.com podcast. And there's so many other great podcasts around. I'm going to do a little episode on the ones that I find so good for me, and hopefully they'll be good for you.

NLP is about learning from the past, not reliving it

So you have to put the effort in, you have to spend the time, you have to make that decision. And is it comfortable? Yeah, well, not always, is it? It's not always comfortable. Just like the eyes. But it doesn't have to hurt again. What do you mean? Cloughie. Because sometimes people think you have to go back into the pain again, go back into the past, into those places of bloody trauma or whatever they are, and go back and re experience them, which is a load of bollocks you can think of. It really is. You don't have to go back to the places that you thought were hurtful. To find out that they're still bloody hurtful. No, no, no, no. Not at all. My sons and I work completely different. And it's such a wonderful way. You learn from the past, not relive it. You get your unconscious mind to learn from the past and not relive it. That's what the hypnosis is about. That's what the NLP is about. It's everything I do here is about learning, not reliving. The only times you relive are the good bloody things. When you're having a fucking fantastic time and it's good for you, good for everyone else and good for planet Earth, then you do relive that part. You anchor those parts so you can fire them off in the future whenever you need them. And again, there's anchoring in. That is his hypnosis tracks bullcliffonline.com podcast just a little one. And they're all free, by the way. They're free, complimentary. You don't even have to put anything down, just your name and an email, because it's all about unconscious learning. And when you get the unconscious learning, sometimes you get the conscious learning. And when you do that thinking, that puzzle book thinking, yeah, you get some conscious learning as well. But you're directing your unconscious mind to learn. And you see, the learning frees us from the negative emotions and the negative limiting beliefs because they're only there because we haven't learned. We only have anxieties and fears and things like that because our, unconscious mind is still using those emotions because we haven't learned the lessons from those past experiences. So once the unconscious mind learns what it needs to know, and it can let go of those negative emotions, let go of those limiting beliefs, because they no longer serve you because you have the learnings, it's the whole basis of timeline therapy, which is a beautiful, beautiful process. Thanks to Tad James for that. Bless him. He's up in heaven now. But what a process he developed there.

When you're developing yourself, you have to have regular checkups

So going back to like, that metaphor of the eyes, you have to have regular checkups. But when you're developing yourself, isn't that like reviewing how far you've come, what needs to be refined? I. What needs to be tweaked? Maybe you discover something else that needs a little bit of work. Because as you move through, I'm not going to call it, a comfort zone, your familiar zone, because that's what it all it is. As you go through that imaginary boundary, you come to things, you go, oh, oh, I didn't that's giving me just a little bit of concern, or maybe I just thinking I'm bit of an imposter here and all that crap. So you just do some tweaking. But when you review, you go, hang on a minute. I have come so far. I have learned so much. I ain't an imposter. I deserve to be here. And you learn anyway.

You've got to be kind to yourself first before you can love others

Back to that kindness. Back to that thing about kindness. I like the theme of kindness here. You see, when we work on ourselves, we work with our self development, our, personal development, whatever you want to call it, is. We want to work with kindness, don't we? Be kind to ourselves, for God's sake. You know, going to get soppy now, but, you know, you got to love yourself first before you can love others. You've got to be kind to yourself first before you can be kind to others. Because if not, you're not in alignment, you're not congruent. That's a lovely word as well, congruent. But you're not living your true self. You can't try to love others. You cannot try to be kind to others. You cannot whatever you want to be if you're not being it yourself, truly. So you have to live the way you want to be, don't you? Live the way you want to be. How do you do that? Act as if. So if you act as if, for example, you're being kind and looking. and to do that, you'd have to look for opportunities to be kind, and then you have to act on those opportunities, and then all of a sudden, you're being kind. If you want to be confident, not over competent. So let's say competent. Act as if. How would somebody act as if. How would you act as if you had that right amount of confidence. Not overconfidence, but, the appropriate amount of confidence, how would you act? How would you breathe? How would you stand? And if you want to remember to remind yourself, get a sticky note and stick it everywhere. Act as if. And this really just starts from being kind and loving to yourself first. Yeah, soppy. I said that before. It's soppy, but it really is true. Taking time out just to be with yourself, but it's also being kind to yourself. And, loving to yourself is investing in you first. Now, this all sounds absolutely bloody wonderful, doesn't it? And, the metaphor here is to get you thinking, get your unconscious mind to go, oh, yeah. What can we do? Well, we'll probably dive in. Well, I will do some more, longer podcasts with the steps of how to be kind to yourself, how to love yourself, how to whatever, whatever, whatever. But if there's anything particular you want to know, bloody ask. Don't be bashful, don't be shy. Just ask. Email me feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. and that's all you have to do. I'll get back to you personally, and then we'll divide, divide, devise a process, or I'll remember one that I've learned. So that's why I said, this is a just simple truth through a real story, seeing the world more clearly, becoming, well, maybe just thoughtful for the moment because. And the reason I'm hanging in here with this one is because I feel it's so important, because it's the foundation to build upon. What's that, Paul? Being kind of to yourself. Being loving to yourself. And, from that foundation, you can develop yourself into anything you choose. You really can. And sometimes, as I say, it won't be better roses. It might, you know, might be just uncomfortable for a little while, but it always disappears. But I say, just, I want to reiterate this. It doesn't have to hurt again. Promise you, it's how you want to be. When you focus on how you want to be, what are the skills you need to be to be that way? How would you have to believe all of that stuff? Do you learn from the past? Yeah. so please do get in contact with me. Please, just. I'd love you to share this with, well, as many people as you could. I'd love you to share the podcast. You know, just. Maybe just share on your contacts, maybe put it on Facebook. This, this is a great podcast. Or this is a good podcast. This is an interesting podcast. Maybe do that and just put it into all your contacts.

Paul Clough: Personal development is about being the best version of yourself

That would be lovely if you did that big ask. I know, because it takes at least 30 seconds, but, you know, it's a big ask. I know, because even telling people that you're listening to personal development, oh, what are you doing that for? It's a bit like myself. When I first started, I was doing an awful lot of stuff, but then I really got into this and I went to, to learn hypnosis, and it was embarrassing to tell people, I'm going to a course on hypnosis and hypnotherapy, but by the way, I'm in big business. It was embarrassing, but I wanted to see the world more clearly. I wanted to live to my true potential. I'm nearly doing that. Nearly not enough, because we're all the same. I think we're in the same boat. We all want to get that little bit more. So let's put that ladder against the wall that we know is going to help us achieve what we want to achieve. There's another little metaphor. Don't put the ladder up against the wrong wall. Have a think first, get your intention and then go. all this stuff we can expand upon, promise you. But this is just a thoughtful. A thoughtful muse to get you thinking of how you can see the world more clearly, how you can find those emotions that you just really feel would help you be that person, the real you. The best version of yourself. I hope all of this made bloody sense. I really do. I've waffled on, but it's come from the heart. And just remember, the people who you love would rather be around you when you're in love with yourself and being kind to yourself and being the best striving person to be the best version of yourself. Yeah. Okay, my friend. Until the next time. I will see you, hear you, hear you, not hear you, speak to you. I'll speak to you then. Enjoy. But please remember, if you want anything, just email me. Okay. Bye bye now.

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🎧 Activating Your Kindness Sensor: A Simple Metaphor to Transform Your World 🎧

In this short but powerful FMQ episode, I’m diving into something so simple yet profound—a metaphor that might just change the way you see and experience the world. Imagine this: You have a sensor inside you, right in your heart, and it’s tuned in to pick up on every opportunity for kindness. What if this sensor was always on, guiding you to act with kindness or spot it in others instantly?

We’re going to explore how activating your kindness sensor can ripple out to create real, meaningful change. Not just for you, but for those around you too. Here’s what we’ll cover:

How a single act of kindness can shift your mood, energy, and the lives of others.
The idea of “paying it forward” and why kindness, like a ripple, spreads far beyond the initial act.
The surprising power of acknowledging kindness in others—sometimes that’s all it takes to brighten someone’s day.

What you’ll learn:

How to switch on that kindness sensor and start noticing those small but life-changing moments.
The simple habit of one act of kindness a day and how it can transform your world.
The energy shift that happens when you lead with kindness, and how people begin to see you differently.

By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped and inspired to make kindness a daily part of your life—because when you do, trust me, it will change everything.

Ready to activate your kindness sensor? Let’s get started.

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Shine brightly

Paul

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One Life No Excuses You Choose No Excuses, Just Choices

Hey, my unplugged friends! Welcome back to the *Personal Development Unplugged* podcast. I’m Paul, and today we’re getting right into the nitty-gritty of life. No fluff, no excuses, just real, raw choices. Because here’s the deal—you’ve only got *one* life, so let’s stop blaming, stop explaining, and start owning it.

Let me start with a little story, a personal one. It’s all about a Christmas card… yeah, a Christmas card. Sounds innocent enough, right? But it taught me something huge about responsibility. You ever done something and then thought, "What was I thinking?" or "Why did I do that?" Well, this is one of those moments.

So, let’s break it down:

### First, why do we need to take responsibility?

It’s simple—because when you own your choices, you get to shape your life. Every action you take, every decision, has consequences, good or bad. But here’s the magic—when you acknowledge them, you also get the power to learn, to grow, and to make better choices next time.

### Then, how do we actually do it? I’m sharing practical strategies for reflecting on past actions—whether they were brilliant or a complete mess—and extracting the golden lessons from them. That’s how you build a richer life. Not by avoiding mistakes, but by learning from them.

### And here’s a big one:

I’ve got five keys to success, and one of the biggest is acting *as if* you’ve already achieved your goals. When you start to live as the person you want to become, your brain and body align. Your decisions start matching the future you’re aiming for.

This isn’t about being perfect, it’s about making choices with intention. It’s about setting expectations for yourself and your life. And, my friends, it’s about choosing to take responsibility—because when you do, you take control.

So, are you ready to stop making excuses and start flying? That’s what this episode is all about. It’s about embracing your one and only life, and making it yours. No one else is going to do it for you.

Take a listen, absorb it, and most importantly, act on it. You’ve got the power, and it’s all within your choices.

As always, please share, and let’s keep spreading the word—because the more we all take responsibility, the higher we can all soar.

https://personaldevelopmentunplugged.com/414-one-life-no-excuses-you-choose/

That’s it for now—let’s unplug from excuses and plug into *you*. See you soon!

Shine brightly

Paul

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Stop your excuses and learn to choose how to live your life

One life, you choose how to live it. No excuses, no excuses. You've got this. There's no one else to blame. Now you've got this. Stop your excuses and learn to choose how to live your life. If you want more when you do

Cloughie says sometimes we don't think about consequences of our actions

M hey, welcome back to the longer podcast. One life. One life. And you choose it. And you choose how to live it. Here's a question to you. Have you ever said this to yourself? What the hell was I thinking about? Why did I do, what is going on? how could I have done just that? You see, a million years ago, in my other life, when I used to be a director of a business, each year we used to give out Christmas cards, send them to all, the local people who employed us and did this stuff and what have you. There's quite a few, quite a few. And one year I decided to do something different. I don't know why I did it at the time, the very second I did it, I thought it was such a brilliant idea, I wrote a cheeky note. Instead of just happy Christmas, Paul, I wrote something else. And what happened? Well, it was, they were seen and there was a big stack of these cards and someone said, what the hell are you doing, Cloughie? This is not it, you can't do this. This is so wrong, so wrong. We're going to have to take all the cards back, we're going to have to throw those ones away, order some more. The people who have already signed all these cards are going to sign them again, and so have you. What else have you got to do? And I did think then the only good thing to do, the right thing to do was apologize. So I don't know what I did, I don't know why. I've let people down badly, I let myself down badly. But at the time, I thought it was the best thing to do. I really did, I thought I was doing something. So I did apologize. And it didn't matter how good that intention was, that behaviour was absolutely crap, wasn't it? And it hurt, bloody hurt when I did it, when I had to go around to each person. So I'm really sorry, you know, I fucked up, but I did learn from it, I did learn because no one else to blame, no one else to blame. I could have argued, oh, it's such a good thing. No, it was wrong, just didn't think about it. What about you? What about you? Have you ever done something like that? Something that you. You've done, but it's quite painful when you think about it now, but at the time, you thought it was a good thing to do. You see, what I didn't do, and I think what we don't do is stop and think about the consequences of our actions. I think we do. Sometimes we get wrapped up in the moment. And you see, this is a little bit like following on from one of the, short five minute quickie podcasts about taking responsibility. No excuses, you see, because you're here right now, listening to me prattle on, and that's your choice. It's a good choice, by the way. Fucking good choice. Yeah. It's a really good choice. In fact, wherever you are in life right now, at this very moment, this very moment in time, whatever you do, where you listen to me now, but whenever you listen to me, or, whenever you're doing right now, is your achievements. This point in time has been created by your achievements, by your cock ups, by your relationships. Basically, everything has been your choice. You have chosen every step of the way. And yeah, you can say, oh, no, no, I didn't, Paul, I didn't clavy, I didn't do that. People made me do that. Things made me do that. The weather made me the weather. The business. Business world, the crash on the Internet, all that stuff that made me. Can you think about that? Just think about it now, really? You're going to blame other people for your choices? Things that happened, for your choices? Yeah, they happened. But you chose to do something when it happened, didn't it? I want to take you back. Take you back in time. I want to take you right, right. All the way back in time to your birth. Really. Yeah. You see, when you were born, you came into this world like a clean slate. You didn't have any beliefs, you didn't have any behaviors other than cry, shit, eat all that stuff. But that's all you did, isn't it? That's all you did. And, from that very moment on, that very moment on, you chose. You chose what you did. You chose at that very moment what to believe, what to do, how to behave. Yeah, I know. There's one caveat. Well, there is. There is one caveat to this. You didn't do it consciously. It was your unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind made these choices, made these learnings. But you had to choose who to believe. Yeah, I know. We've got. When we were born, we had these people around us who, we took on their beliefs almost uncritically, most of them, it's big generalization, but most of them, we took on their beliefs. But even those, even when we chose to take on beliefs uncritical, they weren't even their beliefs, because they could have been other generations and generations and time changes. But we still chose. We still chose to do the things we did and we might even give excuses to.

NLP is all about taking time to learn from the past

Well, in my childhood wasn't that good. I had some negative experiences. I had trauma. There was bullies, there was this. There was that. Nah You know, you might say I didn't have a chance and I didn't have a choice. Yeah, you did. We all did. Because, you see, there's always that counterexample. People from similar backgrounds had similar opportunities or similar things happening to them in life, but they chose a different outcome because they didn't. They're not the same as you, or they're not the same as me, and they're not the same as anybody else. You see these people who will just lay off all those bloody excuses because it wasn't their fault. But the thing is, when you live in this world of lie, I call them lies because they're just reasons. They're excuses. We chose to live that life and they didn't. And they took their opportunities. They made different choices. They did the things that, well, they just made different choices. So where am I going with this? You see, I want to get us into this place where we're not living in the land of what we think are, excuses, but. Or reasons. They're reasons, really. We go, oh, this is the reason. And sometimes we bloody believe it. But the thing is, this reason is just a bloody excuse. I can't even say the word. It's an excuse. We're not taking responsibility. And you see, when we acknowledge that we chose, and we albeit chose unconsciously, and when we go back to NLP, neuro linguistic programming training, that there's some presuppositions, useful assumptions, the presuppositions of NLP. And one of them is everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have at that moment, their unconscious resources, their skills, their experiences in life. So we do the best we can, we try to make the best choice, just like I did when I did those bloody Christmas cards. But it was a fuck up. Sometimes we don't make the right choice. We don't think of the consequences. But, hey, that's life. But the thing is, if we take and acknowledge responsibility for that we become a cause, becoming empowered. And we can learn from them, can't we? We can learn from the results because they're not failures. They might see me at the time because they bloody hurt. but they're just results. We didn't realize what the result we're going to get. And what we got is what we got. We didn't like it. So no excuses. Yeah, I did it. That was me I chose. Don't know why. Something inside me, hey, I want to learn from it. Because when I do that, I can take control, control of my life, control of not necessarily what happens because you're not always certain what's going to happen, but we can be as certain as we can be, can't we? So it's all about taking time to learn from the past. And, it's not just learning about those so called failures, because the things that didn't happen, which didn't happen so good. We might call them failure, but they're just, as I say, they're just a result that we didn't expect to have happen. But we can learn from those, can't we? Because when we learn from them, any negative emotion around those events in our past disappears. Because we don't need the emotion. Because we've learned from them. We can now take that learning into the future. But hey, don't forget about the good stuff. You remember the good stuff. You remember and go, what can I learn from that? Don't just take it blindly. Oh, it was great. Now, what did I do to create that good stuff? What was my thoughts? What were my beliefs? What my emotions? What behaviors did I do? Because you can take that and take them into the future, too. So you've learning from both, not so good, but learning from the good stuff. Don't let the good stuff disappear because the golden nuggets strewn everywhere in your life. And, the thing is, when you do that, you just have to take time. It's about taking time to refresh both, I guess all those different memories. Quiet reflection. Now, you know me, I'm going to say, write that. Nearly swore that sucker down. Write it down. Make notes. Because if you don't, what happens is one comes in one ear and then it pisses off at the other because the other something else is coming in and something else is coming in. So write them down. Because when you write them down, you can really. Or you can come back to them for a start because they're always there. So you can improve. Not improve. Yeah, you can improve upon their thoughts. You can think we don't spend enough time thinking. I think. I think that. But you can ask yourself questions in those notes. What can I learn from this? And you don't have to relive it, because it will never be the same. Think about it. Every memory you have now is not true. It's not true. The emotion you're in right now will change that bloody memory.

You have a choice to make about your life, Paul Cloughie says

If you're happy and you think of a bit of a shitty time in the past, it's not that bad. Well, it wasn't that bad yet. If you're feeling down today, that same memory was absolutely worse than that. So bad. And, it's never the same. Never really, what happened. So we don't want to revisit them as such. Not the memory. But what can I learn from it? How can I do it different? How can I use these learnings to create, betterment in my life? Better experiences, a richer life, the good times. How can I use those emotions and skills to influence more things, to make life richer? And you see, when we do this, we're acknowledging that you have a choice, and you have a choice, and you've always had that choice. And you see, even if you said, well, I'm going to do nothing, I ain't going to do nothing about this. Cloughie, you just made a choice. What's the effect of that, that choice? The choice of doing something, learning something, putting it out there, using new skills, new experience, using those experiences to make a richer life in the future, or do nothing. Still choosing. No excuse. No excuse. You're responsible for this. Take it. And, when you're in that responsibility mode, you are empowered. I tell you that. You think about it and you see, why is this such a good thing? And I know it seems a little bit like hard work, but it isn't. You're here. You're here in personal development mode. And nothing I've said to you is complicated because I broke it. Not me. I'm just telling you in simple terms. Now, this is easy. Takes a bit of resilience, takes some bit of bottle, takes a bit of oomph. Gumption. I love that word, gumption, to do this. But it's so much worth it. You see? Why is this so good, to know this and do this? Because you shape tomorrow what you do now, what you choose now. Well, we said everything you chose in the past has led to now. So what you choose now leads to tomorrow and the next tomorrow, which becomes the now you created. That's all you have to do every time, if you're going to do something, just stop. I've talked so many times on the five minute quickie podcast, there's little episodes just to stop for a moment, take a pause, take a breath before you sign anything, and just think while you're just in this moment. And it doesn't take hours. It's just a few seconds, a few, just a minute or so, maybe. What's my intention for doing this? What is my intention? You know, what's my expectation? Same thing. What do I expect to have happened when I do this? What do I intend? what will be the consequences of my actions? What will be the consequences of my intentions, my expectations? Simple thing is what I'm going to do next, going to make my life better or worse. And if it's a big decision, as I said, write that sucker down. Write it down and look for, you know, if it's going to make my life, mostly better. But there's a few not so good bits in think and write, because writing is thinking. How can I mitigate this? How can I change this? And, when you've got that, decide, decide to take action. Now, here's the thing. And, if you look on, well, if you go to the hypnosis tracks, I have@paulcluffonline.com podcast, there is a thing or a track, and I've talked about it in five minute quickly. So I think you can think of longer, longer podcasts.

The five keys to success start with knowing your goal. So you've decided what to do

The five keys to success. One is know your goal. So you, now you've decided, you've chosen what to do, your intention. So you've decided what to do, and now you're going to take intuitive, massive, and the big thing, continuous action. So you're going to move in that direction because you've thought about it now, you've decided, you've intended, you have an expectation, you take this continuous action. And the thing is, as you do that, you become aware, become aware of what's happening now, not just blindly accepting what happens, but if something happens and it's not quite, quite right, the next step is to become flexible. You change your approach, you do something different. You make sure that you're on target or even, sometimes even better still, you notice there's even a better way. So you don't blindly keep going the same way because you've got a better goal. Now that goal has become richer because you're taking intuitive, massive continuous action and you're aware of what's happening. You're flexible. And guess what? When you think of your intention, what you want, the last, the fifth key to success, and, I think one of the most important ones, well, they're all important, they're all linked together, is act as if. Act as if you've got that result already. It's calling acting as if from a psychology and physiology of excellence, as if you've got it already. Acting as if you've got the wish fulfilled, that feeling of the wish fulfilled, the behaviours of the wish fulfilled. What would you. How would you be? And this is not faking it, because this is you. How would you be if you'd achieved this goal already? How would you act? How do you breathe? How would you think? What pitches would you make in your mind? What behaviors and skills would you either do or learn? because you might need to learn a few as you go along and you just keep cycling around and it means everything you do, you could now take full responsibility for, because you've got to anyway. So you might as well take full responsibility of creating this wonderful life that you're going to create. Say, go to Paul Clough online and I think I've put it on a hypnosis track so you can listen to the. The, previous episode all about that. But the five keys to success, get it even deeper done. Goal setting and things like that. They're all intertwined. And now have the hypnosis track just go there. It's free. Bloody free. Goodness me. All you have to do is press buttons and you get it and then take time and you can choose. That's a choice to make. A choice to improve your life by listening to stuff which is done specifically to make your life richer. I hope I haven't garbled on too quickly. I hope I've made things as clear as. Well possibly I can. I know I swore a little bit. And that's me. Take it or leave it. If it upsets you, I'm really sorry, but just take it. This is me trying to be as. Well, not trying. I'm, being as true to myself as I can be and sharing what I know with you, because I want you to have the life that you really deserve, because you're here. One life. Let's make it brilliant by taking responsibility. Grasp it. I'm gonna make this suck of mine. Easy day. You've got this. And having said all of that, you might go. Actually, Paul Cloughie. When I think about some of the stuff I've got to learn from, it's a bit hard because, you know, it's all very well saying you don't go into the memory, but I do. And, send me an email, tell me a little bit about it. Don't want all the content. Just give me the process of what's happening to you. Feedback@personaldevelopmentunplugged.com. i will certainly send you a personal reply. I will guide you, and I'll probably make an episode just for you that everyone gets a benefit on. it'll be anonymous, of course, but do that and we'll just keep enriching our lives, your life, everyone's lives. Because that's what it is. It's ecological, it's good for you, it's good for me, it's good for everyone around us, and it's good for little old planet Earth, because everyone is just getting a little bit better and life becomes good. So please do that. Just let me know and subscribe. If you haven't subscribed, please do. No, don't. Please do. Just do it. Do it. One button. Choose. Take responsibility and choose to subscribe and listen to us much as you can. I, know not everybody episode will resonate with you. Maybe there's one little golden nugget, but if you keep doing it, keep listening. I know when I listen to other podcasts, I go, that one's good, that one's good. And then the next one you go, shit, that was so good. I've learned something that is going to change me completely, and I hope to try to find those golden nuggets for you. So please do that and enjoy life, because it's time to fly. I'll see you, my friend. Bye. Warning. You are now leaving the unplugged mind of Paul Clough. It's time to fly on your own. Be brave, my friend. Personal development, unplugged.

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Deciding For Success Today Choosing what you succeed in tomorrow

Where you are today, what you are achieving, or not, is a result of every decision you have made.

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When you acknowledge it you become the chooser of you destiny and reality - Whoa Cloughie!

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It's the ultimate being at cause and not being at the whim of others or excuses

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